WWYD - ex belongings

[Nipper2020]

Ex boyfriend moved out of my house 18mths ago, I ended it due to domestic abuse. He is a covert narcissist, was coercive controlling violent once & has been a drug addict in the past.
He moved 1 mile from mine into a tiny bedsit. My guess is to keep tabs on me. He uses any excuse to contact me I've blocked him on every platform. No contact (unless he engineers it!)
He left a few items of clothing & some other valuable belongings when he left saying he would collect them. I know he has only left them here so he has an excuse to come back/contact me (& for free storage). He has no space in bedsit for his things & his land lady is awful so dumping things outside door is not feasible & too inflammatory.
He lives so near I am scared for repercussions. I desperately want his stuff gone and I don't want to see him. Just the thought if seeing him makes me feel ill.

Do I:

1. Move his things to storage nearby for one month, post him the details, pay for the month & its down to him to collect. [worry is - moving his things will trigger a controlling rage]
2. Ask him to get the stuff from mine & arrange a time I'm not here or I have someone else here. [i don't want to see him, it triggers me but me not being here will prob cause a tirade of abuse]

Anything will trigger a potential flare up. What shall i do, I want him gone from my life. Any ideas?
Thank you wise ladies x

I would do the first. Then block him on everything and if he turns up wanting to rant, call police and if needs be get a restraining order ( or whatever they are called now)

If you’re scared of him then contact 101 for advice.

Is there somewhere you can have it moved to so it's out of your house for now? Send him a date to collect from outside your house when you aren't home and can have someone there instead.

You've already kept them 18 months and he knows the stuff is there, commonly it is 3 months after you give formal notice but a month would be reasonable as he has made contact and made no effort to collect his belongings in the last 18 months.

Does he have any family or friends you could drop it off with?

Ask for advice from WA. I’d probably do 2.

Can you take it to his parents, sibling etc?

Wow, I don't know what I would do, but I would want to do it quickly to sever that tie. His being a threat to you is both real but also psychological. I wouldn't let him back in, even to collect his things. Change your locks. I would have someone with me if he comes to collect from outside. I wouldn't be keen to pay for storage, I'd fear some sort of responsibility by taking that rental out in my name and then defaulting if he didn't collect his things. I get what you're saying about the landlady, but that is his responsibility. If you can get advice that's a good shout. Otherwise I think I'd err on the side of letting him know the date, time and location of his things, be it family, friends or his place.

Thank you lov

Thank you lovely people.
No family nearby or that he is close with & he does not have a circle of friends. Its really storage or pick up. Oh and of the items he left is a cross bow & and an air rifle!
I have nothing to report even tho I am scared of him so police not interested.
I've been putting it off because whatever I do, its going to have consequences.
He drives past my house twice a day & even tho I blocked him on everything still seems to somehow keep tabs on me or let me know he is watching. I just want him gone... x

If he has any family nearby, I'd leave it with them.

Wouldn't the storage people expect you to keep paying if he didn't remove the things? Just seems like kicking the can down the road.

Hand the weapons in to the police.

Speak to Paladin they advise on stalking.

He has no family & no friends. All 150miles away or more.
I was thinking of paying 1 month storage in cash. No card details, no ongoing contract. Take it on his name. Would that work?
X thank you

The weapons are not illegal tho so police have no right to take them.
He has a criminal record for historical violence gbh etc but nothing for 20yrs...

I would not make any attempt to return these items. You do not want to restart his interest in you.
I would not give him access to weapons either .

I agree with pp to contact WA for advice.

I know you shouldn't have to but can you change your address so he doesn't know how to find you?

I feel like a storage company isn't likely to go for that as they probably get stuck with a lot of people's crap. But I've never hired one.

Sorry but I don't think this will work.

When I rented a unit you had to give them id and give a credit card and set up a direct debit so you can't avoid paying later on.

They pretty often have amnesties for weapons. There's no bloody way I'd be giving my abuser and stalker with convictions for violence his weapons back.

Thanks all.
I have contacted various, not paladin so thank you re that tip.
I'd have to sell my house & move, not easy or quick, plus not practical as i live rural near work etc
Ah thanks re storage, I wasn't sure so that knocks option 1 on the head.
Option 2 it is then...
thank you!
HTH did I get in this mess!🤦🏼‍♀️

Yeah the weapons worry me tbh!
I think they need to get seized by plod somehow!

Ask someone to drop it at his door. Like a police liaison officer and register your fears

Oo i like that Peaky, thanks, PLO or maybe an impartial mediator ...

I did a Clares Law app in him at the start as there were red flags but they said no DA! Found out after there was, but not reported...

Post it to him?

Do not return the weapons