Would you leave your DH if you found out he'd had a fling?

[mummyjaguar]

Just wondered following on from other threads what most of us would do.

flings/affairs-its all emotional abuse at the end of the day,and IMO its no better to say 'i had an affair because my marriage was at a low point and this other woman listened to me' than it is to say 'my marriage was at a low point so i smacked my wife in the gob to teach her a lesson'.its just that its more socially acceptable to have an affair.

Yes i'd leave him in a flash, if he had a fling, my trust would be broken, and that is irreplaceable, along with communication they are the foundries of a good relationship, i wouldnt stick it out for my kids sake becasue i woulod be unhappy and they would pick up on that

Not being funny, or arguing with you, divastrop, but is that your opinion (that it is emotional abuse) or is that something you read or learned somewhere? I agree, it is very emotionally painful, but that's an unusual and interesting slant yo've put on it. I always like the unusual points of view.

I've just googled it. It says threatening to have affairs is abuse, so presumably so is actually having affairs. Even if he doesn't mean it as abuse, it is abusive to his wife. Hmmm.

Stay.

littlewoman-it was just my opinion actually,but my xp(who was also violent and emotionally abusive)used to go on about how attractive other women were etc,and i always think that if that is emotinal abuse,then actually having an affair must be the ultimate emotional abuse,and ive never been able to understand why so many women see affairs as more acceptable than violence.

I'd stay... I think. Depends on circs. I'd hope that he would give me another chance if I made a mistake too.