A year ago DH and I moved to Norway with our two little kids. Both of us happened to get some good jobs here, so at the time it seemed to make sense. However, I hated it ever since. It is just so dark and grey, and I feel like don't really integrate in the local culture. We don't really have any connections here (DH is from Romania, not from here). My mental health has been suffering so much under this that I got depression and had to take sick leave for some time.
I really want go back to the UK, but DH is totally against that. He is very happy here with his job and his life and wants to stay.
He says if I really want to leave, I should leave alone, and he would stay with the kids, without me.
I do unterstand his point of view, but I feel so desperate and hopeless. I also feel that he doesn't really care about my feelings.
Every time I tell him about my feelings, he gets upset and says that we made the decision to move here together, so I should stick to it and not complain. I try to avoid conflict, so I typically don't raise the issue. However, he can see how miserable I am, so times he asks me what's wrong with me and pushes me to tell, but when I do tell him, it just ends up in arguments with him telling me that I shouldn't make him feel bad for moving here.
Once he even said he would rather get divorced than move away from here. And if he really did so, then I would be even more lonely but still had stay here because he could keep the kids here (since they are legal residents here now). That would break my heart. Sometimes he let's me go back home by myself for a week or so but then sometimes he also complains that I'm leaving him alone with the childcare. I would actually love to take the kids with me more often (they are still pre-school) but sometimes he agrees and sometimes he refuses to give his consent because he thinks the kids should stay "here at home" and I feel I don't really have any say.
I really don't know what to do. Do I just have to accept that I am now stuck here? Somehow make the best of it? I don't want to keep arguing with my husband because I know that he won't change his mind.