North V South

[Honest00lad]

In the dating world. Is their cultural differences that you have noticed that impact on dating? Do you have a preference? Or does it not matter.

If you are the north could you imagine yourself with a southerner and vice versa? I'm not saying what I am, but I couldn't imagine myself with the other. Just curious about this after a comment at work today.

I'm a southerner that moved up north to marry a northerner. We got divorced, but I stayed up here and have been with my northern partner for 14 years. I could never see myself in a relationship with a southerner. Couldn't even tell you why. Maybe the accent, maybe because I just find people from the north more... real. I don't know, it's hard to explain!

Until you meet a Scot and realise that Midlanders are most definitely Southerners😁

So are people from Cumbria and Newcastle , to us Scots. You’re all from “Down South”.

I don’t understand how people who are obsessed by the stereotypical Northerner/Southerner thing decide where the North ends and the South begins. Is there some sort of De-Militarised Zone in the middle, like in Korea?

I couldn't date someone who lived too far from London and wasn't in a "professional" job.

Do you not think they have "professional" jobs up north?.🤣

Wouldn't do it again. He fulfilled every stereotype. As did his BIL. Just awful. He hid it well to start with, but the resentment and chip just grew as the years passed.

I'm a southerner married to a northerner. No issue between us at all but his family, while they say they love me, constantly criticise southerners in front of me - I just nervously laugh it off but it does get a bit much sometimes.

Also, my guess, from what you've written, is you're a northerner? Just a guess!

Where is the border between the North and the South? (Approximately)
Is there a middle area?

(Just curious. I am not from the UK).

Depends on what georgraphy you are talking about 😄.
I am Southern European and yes there are differences. S.Europe men are all over lovebombing you in the beginning, and then ignoring you. I am kind of sick of it, I prefer N.Europeans and especially British who are more gentle. In general my preference is with Anglosaxons (British, Americans, Irish etc).

I am not English, and find this whole thread bizarre. I can't tell the difference between someone who grew up in a big house in the country in North Yorkshire and went to an independent school and one who had a similar upbringing in Suffolk. If I meet a corporate lawyer working in Manchester, I don't think it makes a huge difference whether they grew up in Southampton or Newcastle. I share an office with someone from Barnsley and someone else from Ipswich. They have different accents but similar interests which resulted in them both doing the same masters degree in the Northern city where we all work. My in-laws in Hertfordshire have less in common with my friends and family in London than they do with people of a similar lifestyle in a Northern suburb, although most of the London people I know are from elsewhere. My environmental activist friend in Cheshire is a generation older than my environmental activist friend in Suffolk, but that 30 year gap is more of a cultural difference than where they grew up.

I'm not sure I would want to date anyone who saw themselves primarily as "a northerner" or "a southerner", but I don't care where someone was born and raised.

This is exactly what Sarah Cox says 😁

Southerner married to a northerner. Also dated northerner previously when at university.

I wouldn't really say there's much of a divide or difference apart from finding northerners a bit more outspoken which can be refreshing at times...but DHs family are borderline rude and insensitive but I think that's more because they're just knobheads 🤣 Think southerners tend to be a bit more reserved and less likely to strike up a conversation with a stranger at a bus stop etc.

I agree. DH northern I’m southern and we live in the north. I’m happier working here as patients are friendlier, much as I hate to admit it! We never have issues other than his friends teasing him that I was ‘posh’ when we first met.

Bit of a mix of accents TBF I suppose if I had to identify north or south, it would be north, industrial heritage reasons.

I think though when people say south, they tend to mean London and the Home Counties, poss Essex, rather than Cornwall, Devon, Dorset. What about East Anglia too? Within the Midlands, Birmingham is not the same as rural Worcestershire or the Shropshire hills. For a small country England has incredible diversity and perhaps that should be the focus rather than a N/S divide which isn't really accurate.

(Still a Midlander though)

Anglosaxon does not mean 'British, Irish and Anerican' people!

I'm from the South but moved to the North. Never had any issue dating because of it, or encountered any "culture clashes". The only time it's even been mentioned in a romantic relationship is now we have a child and it's amusing to see what accent he's developing.

Yeah I know. When we refer to the anglosaxonic world we mean UK, Canada, US, Australia, NZ, Ireland etc.
I did say “etc” though

Who is this we?

I was arguing for fewer countries included, not more.

Ireland, for example, is not considered Anglosaxon.
There's a bit of a mix obviously, but it's not defined as an Anglosaxon country. Celtic perhaps.

English speaking though and similar culture to British/Americans.

In any case, I think we have highjacked the OPs posting. The point of the discussion is not my posting and who should be referred to as anglosaxon.

Exactly! I'm from the south and have been living up north for over 12 years. I really don't get this nonsense about cultural differences and north south divide.
OP seems to be implying there are huge, insurmountable differences. I just don't see it. Yes the accents are different but you can say that within the south or the north too. The south east accent is very different to the south West accent. The Lancashire accent is very different to the Newcastle accent.
As for any differences beyond that? They really are minimal. I'd say I've noticed that northerners are a bit more friendly/chatty but obviously it's a generalisation. I know plenty of quiet northerners and plenty of loud and chatty southerners.
I see so much more in common. Whether from the north or south, we are all British and generally have British traits. I travel a lot, and have lived abroad for years. I see that British people have certain characteristics that are different to other places, such as a tendency to drink too much/get drunk, to be more scruffy and overweight, to have a wonderful sense if humour and sense of fun, to be polite and concerned with manners etc etc. Obviously, these are generalisations and "not all Brits," etc, but these are differences I've noticed between brits and other nationalities. They apply equally to northerners and southerners.
My DH is foreign and has lived up north and down south. He says we're all the same!

Yes, don't want to derail, but we're allowed to correct inaccuracies when we see them!

Ha, Northerner and proud 😊 I could be considered borderline rude, but I just tell it as it is, then everyone knows where they stand! I wouldn’t intentionally upset someone but am very direct.
I strike up conversations wherever and enjoy it.
I could see why someone sensitive would find me hard work. Fortunately for me I am off men for life!

@SkaneTos Where is the border between the North and the South? (Approximately)
Is there a middle area?

I would say there are degrees of Northern and Southern rather than an arbitrary line. Easier to think in accents rather than location.

Midlander's are in the "middle" but most southerners would consider them up north. Birmingham or Derby have the industrial background we don't have in the south.
However that middle has Hereford on the edge of one side and Suffolk on the other, both of which are primarily agricultural counties. So whilst technically Midlander's, they are the "lite" version in my mind. Country accents and market towns.

London and the surrounding counties are "south" but all the counties in the bit underneath are full on south getting less southern so as you go SW ( so Gloucester is south but I don't know how they identify) . Cornwall is a bit of a rogue element having celtic roots.

Anyway that's my stereotypical perceptions for the morning!

Im a northerner and if single could see myself much more with a southerer than some other northerners - much more likely to take someone from Oxford over Liverpool for example. I think you are making assumptions on what stereotypical northerner and southerners are