North V South

[Honest00lad]

In the dating world. Is their cultural differences that you have noticed that impact on dating? Do you have a preference? Or does it not matter.

If you are the north could you imagine yourself with a southerner and vice versa? I'm not saying what I am, but I couldn't imagine myself with the other. Just curious about this after a comment at work today.

I get what you mean.

I'm from Barnsley married to a Barnsley man. I love the north, I will never not live in the North and no, I can't see myself with a southerner! Mainly because I find certain accents sexy and none of the ones I do are southern!

I would never say never (if I was free & single) regarding who I fell in love with but I can guarantee I would never live anywhere further south than Sheffield.

Can you speak Chinese? It must have been a really interesting and quite unique upbringing.

Hmm good point about similar values

Remember in the 90s the oasis V blur rivalry. Though I think that was more down to social status than north V south.

That is fair enough. No malice there, just honesty

Sorry to hear that. Hope things work out for you back home and you can reconnect with family more and old friends

I laughed reading this cos my last relationship was exactly a North/South thing but we are on the island of Ireland so not only are there cultural differences but obviously as our counties were stolen then it means that despite being on the same island we are also different nationalities lol

No it was not a problem.

I’m not entirely sure it matters where someone is from or what their cultural background is provided you have similar values and can communicate well.

I'm from London. Married a Yorkshireman. We lived all over Europe before settling in Yorkshire.

DH... he's frugal in a good way. Looks for way s of saving money, but would give you his shirt if you needed it.

There's a whole world out there and you couldn't even imagine being with someone from the other half of this tiny country?! It's not racism, but it's staggeringly parochial and narrow-minded.

It's unthinkable.
I could imagine myself with someone off this tiny island though. Just not at the other end.

Thank you but please don't be sorry I'm divorced. Wish I'd never married him. Sadly no family but hoping to make new friends.

I'm in the North, (also Barnsley, Hi Rains! 😊) and married to a Northerner. Also had relationships with Southerners. Can honestly say it didn't, and doesn't, matter to me where someone is from. If they're good to me and nice people, that's all I care about. I really can't be doing with all this North South divide bollocks tbh. We live in a TINY country!

I'm from Ireland and DH is from the home counties. We live in Yorkshire, which is where our children were born and raised. I'm not convinced that there is a large cultural difference between DH and his children, or my DC and their southern English cousins.

Occasionally my inlaws will make some strange remarks about "The North" but we just ignore them and laugh about it later, but it's a fairly minor gripe.

I'm with you Op.
I've dated guys from South Africa, Morocco and the States but I can't imagine dating a born and bred Northerner for some reason.
I think it would be the shared history that was in reality very different. Something like the Thatcher years positively impacted us down south, whereas I know it had the reverse effect on the north.
Obviously if you meet "the one" it doesn't matter where they are from. (I do think baath instead of " barth" would get on my tits though).

There's definitely a north south divide. I know it would be ideal if it was one little happy island, but it isn't.

@TheBers2024 Some great points there!

I'm sure you will. Good luck ☘️

Not at all. I think I'd rather be with someone from outside the UK than the other end of England
What a weird outlook, England is only 300 odd miles Carlisle to Southampton. Talk about small minded Southerner.

I started off living in the south, now live in the north, am foreign.

It’s more of a wealth/ upbringing/ jobs divide for me than anything overly cultural. I prefer northern men, they’re more straight-up, maybe a bit rough round the edges, look more traditionally masculine and maybe more ‘alternative’, eg more tattoos, unusual piercings etc. They largely don’t seem to give a damn what people think and seem more authentic. Seem to worry they aren’t posh enough/ wealthy enough a lot. Around where I live (close to 3 big cities), there are pockets of wealth, but largely people’s lifestyles and preferences aren’t expensive.

When I’m in the south more men are certainly typical wholesome Home Counties types that do a lot of traditional things with family, destination weddings, shooting weekends etc. More conservative looks and dress, more confident, often overly so! Really nice to look at but seem to be conforming more to society’s expectations.

I prefer what I’m seeing in the north as I prefer someone quite raw and real. Often they find me a bit ‘southern’ and giggle at some of the things my family in the south would think of as normal.

I’ve dated several nationalities but there’s something about northern English men..,

Why do you think I'm a southerner? I haven't said where I'm from.

I'm a Midlander. We combine the best elements of both while still having our own unique culture. Everyone should marry us.

😂 😂 😂 not with that accent!

If you could be a northerner or a southerner, what you rather?

There may be a North South divide for some people but should there be?! It's honestly ridiculous. We're all from the same, very small country. I don't know why some people insist on keeping this 'animosity' alive. Plain daft

I’ve lived in the south, the north and the midlands. I think my main criteria is not liking a LDR so would choose to be in a relationship with someone who lives near me. I think your post implies that people stay in one location which often isn’t true.

Surely it's not north-south divide really though. I'm sure someone from Yorkshire would fit right in with the Devon/Somerset folk, maybe less so with stereotypic Essex-types.