Hi all, so last night while at home with my partner something happened and I’m looking for opinions because honestly, I feel my judgement is off at the moment.
I’d baked some cookies and my partner shouted the kids down to try them. His son was tired from a long day out of the house. They turned out much bigger than expected but they were soft, so quite hard to pick up without them breaking in 2. His son sat down next to him and was trying to pick his cookie up without it breaking and whilst picking it up my partner started getting irritated with him with how long it was taking. All of a sudden (his son had his mouth open ready to put the cookie straight in) he grabbed it off him and shoved a handful of it straight into his mouth so it was full to the brim, his eyes welled up straight away and he didn’t know what else to do but stand up and run away upstairs silent crying (he couldn’t cry properly because his mouth was full). I was shocked by what we’d just witnessed. My son said he could have choked then, and he said I hope he does the fucking idiot. I said that isn’t ok what you just did? He made me feel like I was overreacting, we had an argument over it and he basically told me it’s his son so he chooses how to discipline him, no one else and maybe my kids would be better behaved if I followed suit.
Its made me feel sick, my own son has an eating disorder, which is linked to his autism. But knowing how sensitive he is with food and how even certain simple things can cause issues has maybe over triggered me. Or maybe not, how would you address this?