Other ladies bodies

[bananaleaves91]

I wandered when you on holiday and see an overweight lady and you are slim do you really notice that lady or are you more bothered about yourself and how you look?
Sometimes I feel women could be more critical of each other than men.

I don't take much notice of other people and try not to judge. I don't worry much about how I look either, I tend to try and enjoy whatever I'm doing like reading my book, looking at the waves, dozing, relaxing in the sun, sipping my cocktail, going for a dip etc Life's too short to worry about looks.

I don't judge at all. I notice, and am usually more in the camp of why is she rocking that bikini at a size 24 and I'm not at a size 16.

This.

I really don't care what other people look like or what they are doing.

If I were you I'd mind my own business and not judge other people. At home or on holiday.

Or does it make you feel better?

What a bizarre post.

When I was size 8, I had no interest in the size of other people's bodies.

At size 16, I still have no interest.

I'm more likely to notice someone if I like their hair/dress/sarong/sandals... etc!
I am not perfect as I am human, and I don't worry about other people not being perfect too.

I don’t but I think my husband is having a glance at the slim ones with bikini’s up their bum, of which there are lots!

I'm more worried about what I look like. I also don't see over-weightness until it kicks into major obesity.

Not a bizarre post to me

I'm with a PP - if someone is larger, I think "god, I wish I had the confidence to be comfortable in my own skin like that"

I guess I might notice if they were morbidly obese or extremely skinny (in a neutral way) or I might be a bit envious of a super glam woman with a film star body. However the vast vast majority of women do not fall into these categories and I pay no attention to their bodies whatsoever.

If he is doing that in such an obvious way that you can see him doing it then it's very disrespectful to you.

I will notice a massively overweight person half naked yes. Who wouldn't? Below that I wouldn't notice or pay any attention.

I'm very overweight so very self conscious so when I go on holiday I'm embarrassing about myself. I appreciate all different shapes and sizes but personally I would prefer to be slimmer myself as feel uncomfortable and ugly in swimsuits and shorts.
I'm not judging others just wandering if others look at me and are thinking negatively?

The people judging you are not worth your time. On the whole people are too busy doing their own thing to think about you. Don't worry. Enjoy your holiday and try not to think about it.

It's called intrasexual competition. Yes, a lot of appearance stuff is aimed at the same sex, because it's about showing status rather than actual attractiveness.

bananaleaves91
Go on holiday and enjoy yourself, you will never see these people again.

I think we are much harsher on ourselves than others are.

The only time I ever really notice anything about anyone else is when it's something good, as others have said e.g good hair, nice clothes, a body shape similar to mine wearing or doing something I wouldn't have the confidence to do.

Negatives about other people fly over my head. I don't notice and I don't care as long as it is not effecting me personally.

I should add I don't mean this unkindly as I realise reading it back, it sounds mean. People aren't necessarily going to be thinking anything negative about you but if there's something about you that really makes you stand out, it's human nature to look.

I pay zero attention to large ladies. I am fascinated by slim women. I’m a size 12 and can’t help but look at smaller ladies and think how amazing they look.

I love seeing all the ladies and and their natural bodies having a great time.

we’re so used to social media images, you forget 99% of people have ‘normal’ bodies.

so yes I do notice but not in a nasty way, in an appreciative way

I'd be lying if I said I didn't notice, but I also don't 'care'. I also don't equate weight with beauty - I find faces, smiles, eyes, etc so much more important than bodies.

I enjoy people watching - I might have a giggle to myself if someone (of any size) is having trouble getting into the sea because it's cold, that sort of thing, but I wouldn't be concerning myself over any wobbly bits you might have, that's of no interest to me.

I'm someone who goes between 14-24 in size every few years and have always been below average looks-wise. I also struggle with showing 'flesh', not just from weight but I have self-harm scars from donkeys years ago.

I just like looking out at what's going on to pass the time but don't harbour any strong feelings about it and try and tell myself everyone else is the same. And if they do care, well they're not my kind of people!

Neither. I don't dwell on what the other lady looks like, nor am bothered with what I look like. I just enjoy my holiday. I don't reduce women to their bodies and I don't judge them by whether they meet the very specific metrics of beauty set by the sexual appetites of men.

Oh dear judging. A hanging offence on Mumsnet.

I'm generally more bothered about how I look but I'd be lying if I said I didn't judge others sometimes.

It's not normally about weight though. This year, I was mostly judging women for wearing those thong bikini bottoms. I hate them, regardless of the woman's weight.

Holiday should feel relaxed. Everyone is essentially in their underwear which is weird when you think about it.