Other ladies bodies

[bananaleaves91]

I wandered when you on holiday and see an overweight lady and you are slim do you really notice that lady or are you more bothered about yourself and how you look?
Sometimes I feel women could be more critical of each other than men.

OP I m sure you're lovely. People honestly won't notice and if even if they do, they rarely care. You'll never see them again and their opinions aren't important. You have one short life, try to enjoy it.

Fake tan helps cover veins and makes you look slimmer, not that you need to do either, I honestly don't believe anyone will care or judge, and if they do who the fuck cares? That they are judging a stranger based only on what they see says a lot more about them than it does you, but, if it helps you feel better about yourself it's worth it.

If I'm feeling down about something I can't change, or don't have time to change, I fix smaller things that bother me less that I can change and it always helps.

Take some time to pamper yourself. Get a facial, a spray tan, try on some new swimming costumes until you find the perfect one and remember you don't know the people on the beach and they don't know you and their opinion means nothing.

if others look at me and are thinking negatively?

One thing you can be absolutely sure about, anyone looking at you will be much, much more concerned about how they look than how anyone else looks. You know yourself that's true for you so try to relax and enjoy whatever you are doing without judging yourself. Enjoy your holiday.

I think it's great to see people of all shapes and sizes having fun on the beach or at the pool. Everyone's different, nobody's perfect.

I really don't have an opinion either way on someone else's body, it's my body I need to focus on not anyone else's.

That's said I do find the whole conversation concept of holidaying by the pool weird in that basically you have a bunch of random strangers walking around all day in their underwear!

I am skinny, and if I glance at an overweight lady, I probably think “I wish I had her lovely big boobs” then I go back to thinking about my day 🏖️🍹 📖😊

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To be totally truthful, overweight and what I'd consider more 'typical' bodies (apple shaped/pear shaped/bit of extra weight) are so 'normal'. As a nation, we're overweight so most people carrying a good bit extra don't really stand out- they mold into the crowd

It's the people with the stunning, hourglass, toned, bronzed bodies that get the most gawps I think- just because they have that "oh wow" factor that isn't necessarily commonplace.

I honestly don't think overweight and even obese women in a bikini really attract that much negative attention. I do sometimes people watch, but it's more finding similarities - I'll often spot someone with 'my figure ' and look at what they're wearing to get inspiration for what would look good on me!

I don't see any of them. Ever. Honestly.

You're right @Yozzer87 - it is normal to notice and it's human nature.

I'm always mildly surprised by all the people saying they don't pay any attention.

I believe they would like to be that way, but I don't think it's really true.

People are fascinated by other people's bodies, and they notice. It's normal.

Who says it's normal? Some of us have other interests than strangers' bodies.

I might notice what I don’t like about myself - I’m not overweight so don’t care about people’s weight but I have saggy boobs so might glance at someone else’s to compare, Ihave hairy legs so again, might notice someone else’s if they’re hairy.

Well, people do notice others , that is for sure. Do we judge others? Why should we but I do think that very young women do go through a period of feeling so happy they are not old and saggy or fat like many of the older women until their time comes, because in one of my last jobs the young colleagues loved to tell us how all of us oldies looked 29 , when we really were above middle age. So when we lit up and said: really, you think so??? I bet they had a good laugh behind our backs.

According to statistics I saw recently, about 60% of UK women are overweight, which I think reflects the number of large women I see when I am out and about. So I don't think anyone would be paying attention to anyone's body just because the person is large. It is too normalised to be noticeable.

I'm overweight and for years I avoided to go to the beach with my 5 year old girl and 10 year old boy. I stayed at home and they went with their father while I cried at home. I prepared my self all last year saying that I can not do that any more and I want to enjoy with my children.

I thought hard how I do not judge other people at the beach and I'm sure other people are to preoccupied with their own problems to think about one overweight mum. On June 23rd this year I first went to the beach with my children and enjoyed every second of it. I continued to do that all summer and in few days we're going to the pool again.

People do not care, enjoy. Please, enjoy pool and the sea. Life is too short for anything else,

I've just spend 10 days by a pool, the people I remember.

The German lady with an incredible toned gym body, stunning figure and lovely confidence.

The super slim lady that walked like she owned the pool, I'd say she was mid 60d and had a fab yellow bikini.

And the really self conscious larger young girl with a group of friends who started on day one totally covered up, hands over tummy, T-shirt over swimmers etc by day 3 she was in a bikini and walking around and I felt like bloody nice work!!

Meanwhile I'm 49 size 12-14 with a menopausal overhang tummy that I despise, wobbly bum and tad too much back fat for my liking, and wore the bikini.

Does anyone care nope!!

Regrettably, I am straight, so I don't look at women's bodies or care what they look like.

Everyone has hairy legs, naturally, don't they?

I don't judge.

The only slight pinch I feel is when I see a lovely young girl who is very obese and I just feel a bit sad that she's likely unhappy with her body.

I have a mantra for my life.
There is always someone thinner/fatter, richer/poorer, happier/sadder, healthier/iller
etc.
I can honestly say that jealousy or envy is an emotion I never feel. It’s like I have that part of my brain missing. It’s wierd.
But incredibly refreshing and makes you just not care or think about what you are, or what you’ve got, or not got.
Please, please, as a non skinny woman who wears a bikini, just wear it and enjoy your holiday 😊

Interestingly there's a difference between the women that catches my eye and the women that my partner thinks has/will catch my eye on a beach.

I judge swimwear, but not the size of the person wearing it.

Honestly, no one bats an eyelid at the size of people at the beach.

Thankyou good advice
I'm not jealousy or envious just embarrassed about myself my fat cellulite and veins

I actually said to a holiday acquaintance "I didn't recognise you with your clothes on"😢 when her dh and dc were checking out.Who gives a fuck.
We generally meet people or observe people on holiday partially clothed.

On holiday, round the pool, people watching is something we all do.

I personally observe all aspects of what I see. Whether that be a couple canoodling, a cute little baby laughing, a man with a crazy haircut, a women in a particularly curvy body, a brightly colored sarong.

I'm not "judging" as such but just "seeing" and having many fleeting thoughts about each scenario/ person