Other ladies bodies

[bananaleaves91]

I wandered when you on holiday and see an overweight lady and you are slim do you really notice that lady or are you more bothered about yourself and how you look?
Sometimes I feel women could be more critical of each other than men.

Same

I find I only do it when they have what I would class as an incredible figure- and that’s not very common.
So it’s in a positive way that I notice, I genuinely don’t look or think twice about any one else whether they’re small or large.

I'm 33, a size 8 and have a jiggly belly, stretch marks and 2 x c-section cars

I'd never wear a bikini

When I see larger women in bikinis I generally just think good on them for not caring what they look like

Now do I think they look good? No. I'm sorry, I don't. I don't look good in a bikini either so I don't subject others to it

I don't care but I do notice. Not going to sit here and lie about it. Probably won't think about it for more than a min but if I see someone morbidly obese in a bikini I do usually think 'Blimey they're big'. It's just human nature. Same as with women with incredible figures ' I usually think 'wow they look amazing'.

I was inspired by a morbidly obese woman on holiday who used the pool, wore the swimsuit and ate all the nice things to care less about myself.

Basically she was having a bloody good time. I on the other hand was anxiously covering up and watching what I ate for fear of A looking fat and B being seen to be fat and eating.

Now I see tiny women and bigger women and wonder at the variety of shape we have. And critique the swimsuit choices of other people in the hope I’ll pick a better swimsuit myself!

I am way more bothered about how I look, and really impressed by any larger lady with body confidence.
If someone is morbidly obese, I worry for their health (my mum died of obesity related health problems) and hope they are going to address it - but I also hope that being out and about in the sunshine is them doing just that!😁

I would say commenting on anyone else’s body is unacceptable. I overheard a bloke make a comment on an attractive woman walking past and it really upset me. I’d been gradually overcoming my self consciousness on the basis that it was a family friendly place and we were all just parents there with our kids. But no. For some it was an opportunity to lech on passing women.

OP I am overweight and I have always noticed others’ bodies. When I see other overweight ladies I feel a bit more comfortable and reassured that I’m not alone, seeing loads of slim ladies tends to make me feel a bit self conscious. Aside from that I’m not looking at other ladies and making judgments on their bodies.

I’m normally more engaged watching my own DC and having my own fun than looking at others

I don’t really notice unless someone is morbidly obese or wearing something really revealing. What I do notice is women who look good… I’m not sexually attracted to women but pay more a lot more attention to good looking women then men.

My theory is nobody actually remembers anything about how anyone else they've never met looks.

So just crack on.

And if they shoot you evils ...a cheery wave and very loud "hello, how're you doing?" will probably make for some entertaining body language response..

Then you know they're a twat and can have a lovely rest in your completely appropriate holiday bikini.

Nah - I'm judging the men. Especially when we're in the spa. Naked. Yes I look at their butts and bits. Some are horrifying. Others are awesome.

Goodness only knows what they think of the old fat woman pretending to read her book.

what I tend to notice is the well dressed women of any size. If I’m staring too hard it’s because I’m memorising what you’re wearing.

I don't actually notice people at the beach - men or women - unless they have an amazing body, in which case I'm thinking how good they look

Ok. Generally I wouldn't, mostly because I just don't pay that much attention to anyone. As I've got older I'm more appreciative of weight struggles as well.

That said, if you were bursting out of your leggings while scarfing a Greggs giant sausage roll I'd probably raise an eyebrow.

While I have noticed in recent years on holidays that more people seem in the obesity category, which statistically is true, I do think body positivity is a good thing and often see larger ladies rocking bikinis and wouldn't think twice about it :)

I only notice if they're wearing something I like.

I have always been a swimmer and decided many years ago that if someone else's biggest problem was the size of my arse then good for them. I've got other things to think about. It makes me sad when people miss out on stuff they'd love because they're self conscious. Sod that.

I notice when someone has a really great figure because it makes me wonder what the exercise routine is. Don’t really notice anyone else.

The only person anyone is judging is themselves.

I promise you OP, no one will care about your body at all.

I’ve never looked at anyone and thought she’s too big/too small to be here etc.

So you are judging. Because if I’m on holiday I will look fat. Because I am.

I will also be enjoying my well earned holiday and if that means I’m having a cocktail or an icecream which I don’t get to eat the other 51 weeks of the year then I will damn well enjoy it. I’d enjoy it more of you weren’t raising an eyebrow though.

I’m not obliged to dress well or to eat well for your benefit. I am allowed to be as slobby or badly dressed as a thin person.

I lost 2.5lb on my last holiday. So next time you’re thinking about raising an eyebrow, remember you are seeing a snapshot of someone’s life.

I’m more about myself, tbh and if I happen to notice other ladies, it’ll be from a place of admiration for their confidence

Would anyone actually dare to tell the truth on threads like this? Of course we all judge other people. It's human nature.

But if these are people you don't know, then who cares? It has no effect on your life whatsoever and you shouldn't limit your own behaviour or enjoyment of your holiday.

I feel much more self conscious in a bikini with people I know than I do on holiday amongst randomers.

I am not only overweight but have broken veins and bad varicose veins in legs so it ruins things in one way as feel embarrassed of myself

Ummm ok. I don't care one way or the other what you look like really and you shouldn't care what I think either.

You do what you want to do wherever but why ask the question as it seems that you do care and would probably be doing it in return.

Well done on your weight loss btw.

I’m not the OP. Just another woman who’s spent a lifetime trying to manage my weight.

I’ve finally developed the hide of a rhino, but am well aware that society thinks fat people shouldn’t eat junk and should dress well.

And I challenge that when I see it.
It’s insidious. Next time you can’t help but notice someone who’s overweight and badly dressed or eating in public, take a moment to wonder whether your ‘notice’ is really fair.

My mother can do the whole ‘I’m not judging, just noticing’ thing. It fools no one.