I feel disrespected by my ex

[Prettygirlmia]

So I can admit that I have been playing a little tit for tat with my ex. We broke up 6 months ago but have been in off and on contact since then, and hooked up some months ago. Anyways about a month and half ago he confess that he still liked me and wanted to take me out for food. So I agree he ends up basically ghosting me after I said I agreed. So I decided to block him on all platforms.

He plays the tit for tat game and decided to do the same. He ends up unblocking me a month later and starts viewing my social media posts. He then sends me a text asking me “why did you block me weirdo”? I told him why. He then proceeded to send a long paragraph explaining how he had to work and he was going out of town etc, then he apologized for the communication.

He then tells me that he was going to apologize but when he tried, he found out he was blocked so he decided to block me back because he said “I had him f*** up”.

I then proceeded to tell him I’ve moved on and have healed from the situation and us in general. I did kinda let him have it basically explaining to him how I felt like he was and has been playing with my feelings etc. he starts sending me paragraphs asking me why I felt like that, especially since he confessed that he still had feelings for me as well. He then said “I always still had feelings for you but didn’t think we needed to be in a relationship again, and I’ve told you that”. Which by the way he never said that to me.

I finally say “so what I’m getting from you is you wanted to be sexual with me, sometimes hangout but not commit to me again”?

He replied saying “yup that’s what you’re getting from me, at most I only wanted to be friends, and I’ve been told you that”.

I was in shock it was kinda a heartless statement. Not only shocked but confused cause why are you even texting me asking me why I blocked you and having a full on conversation with paragraphs with someone who you don’t care about like that anymore?

I’m 23 this too shall pass but it kinda pushed me back a notch in my healing process. It was my fault for even giving him the time or day and even responding to him.
Any advice ?

Either re-block him and move on or just don’t ever message him back and move on. This is just one you need to ignore and out grow.

Remember it well, 23 is a classic nightmare age for this kind of male nonsense. They are still babies, mentally. Just constant game playing. Draw a line under it and don’t bite when he tries to bait you.

You live and learn OP!

Never consider rekindling with an ex unless they are very clear about wanting you back and why and are setting out how they will be INCREASING their commitment to you.

This one is after FWB whilst still being able to shop around. Clearly thinks he’s something.

Stop responding to him now. Leave his stupid last comment hanging in the air forever. It will make him cringe each time he reads it. He’ll feel compelled to write something less arrogant in a week or two. Don’t reply.

Go out and have fun with your friends OP! I’d love to be 23 again!

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He’s blocked I blocked him after that message

Do you guys think he might regret it ?

He's not worth your time, OP. He's made it clear that all he wants is an occasional shag. He doesn't love you; he doesn't respect you. You can do better. Block him once and for all and move on.

If you ‘blocked him on all platforms’ how was he able to start viewing your socials and texting you a month later? You say he started doing this after he blocked you and then unblocked you, but for him to be able to contact you and view your posts you must have also unblocked him. Why did you do that?

I don’t know…

He sounds like an idiot, so no, I think all he’ll regret is he didn’t fool you any longer so he could use you when he wants to.
he hasn’t grown his brain yet fully - there’s actually part of his brain that isn’t functional yet, and it’s the part that makes rational decisions.

keep him blocked.
be so focused on making your life better, you no longer have time for stupid games.

you’re worth more than this.

just because some stupid dude can’t see what you’re worth, that doesn’t make you worth less. It makes them a fcking idiot.

Get your social.media set to private fgs.

Keep him blocked this time. He could only disrespect you because you let him. Learn from that mistake. Don't give him another chance. Move on and find someone who does respect you and wants a real relationship.

hes never talked to me like that? It’s just kinda came out of no where. It was like he was so mad?? I’ve done nothing to him

Just leave each other alone and move on OP, this isn't going to make you happy

You blocked him. He got angry because he wanted to control the situation.

He's shown you his true colours. Keep him blocked everywhere and move on. Don't play the same stupid games he is with unblocking and blocking, it's pathetic and childish.

You've given him enough head space. It's done. Start your healing process that you should have months ago.

He won’t regret it, he’ll just find some other woman to be a dick to. Keep him
blocked, move on properly and never give in to the temptation to speak to him ever again. Your best revenge is a life well lived!

Keep him blocked.

I looked at my blocked list the other day and still have an ex blocked from nearly 9 years ago. I have no reason whatsoever to unblock him. I suggest you do the same.

Who cares if he regrets it, just heal yourself and move on. He's shown you he's not worth your time after ghosting you. He's not a nice man, if he was you'd not have split up and he'd not have ghosted you.

Does it matter?

I’m trying to figure why he was even wasting his time sending me paragraphs justifying it….. especially if he was going to say what he said at the end.

Who cares whether he regrets it? He was after a posterity bonk, that's all, because there was no-one else available.

Not worth wasting head space on.

Wait what ? What’s that ?

The only reason you are trying to figure out his motivations is because you must be still pining after him or hoping on some level that you could get back together. Otherwise the why doesn't matter.

This is what you need to work on. You've got to get analyzing him out of your head and move on. Truly move on. You won't figure him out and even if you did, it doesn't make a difference to the situation.

He's been playing games. That's the bottom line. You need to realize you've outgrown him and leave him firmly in your past. Keep him blocked, don't think about him or wonder why...just move forward. Anything else is simply wasting your own time/hesdspace and it doesn't allow you to progress. So don't hinder yourself by thinking about him at all.

In the nicest possible way - just keep the fucker blocked and get on with your life.
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Move on. Exes are (or should be) in your past for a reason. The relationship didn't work.

Neither of you owes the other anything, and you should not look back. Or expect 'respect' from an ex. Your mistake was trying to hang on, hook back up, stay FWB or whatever. You've both been playing silly games with each other, instead of just moving on with dignity.

Time to grow up and forget about him.

This has nothing at all to do with respect or being disrespected,

you do not sound 23, more like 17 or under.

STOP playing tit for tat, move on and grow up.

Sure but for only as long as it takes for him to get his leg over with you again.