I feel disrespected by my ex

[Prettygirlmia]

So I can admit that I have been playing a little tit for tat with my ex. We broke up 6 months ago but have been in off and on contact since then, and hooked up some months ago. Anyways about a month and half ago he confess that he still liked me and wanted to take me out for food. So I agree he ends up basically ghosting me after I said I agreed. So I decided to block him on all platforms.

He plays the tit for tat game and decided to do the same. He ends up unblocking me a month later and starts viewing my social media posts. He then sends me a text asking me “why did you block me weirdo”? I told him why. He then proceeded to send a long paragraph explaining how he had to work and he was going out of town etc, then he apologized for the communication.

He then tells me that he was going to apologize but when he tried, he found out he was blocked so he decided to block me back because he said “I had him f*** up”.

I then proceeded to tell him I’ve moved on and have healed from the situation and us in general. I did kinda let him have it basically explaining to him how I felt like he was and has been playing with my feelings etc. he starts sending me paragraphs asking me why I felt like that, especially since he confessed that he still had feelings for me as well. He then said “I always still had feelings for you but didn’t think we needed to be in a relationship again, and I’ve told you that”. Which by the way he never said that to me.

I finally say “so what I’m getting from you is you wanted to be sexual with me, sometimes hangout but not commit to me again”?

He replied saying “yup that’s what you’re getting from me, at most I only wanted to be friends, and I’ve been told you that”.

I was in shock it was kinda a heartless statement. Not only shocked but confused cause why are you even texting me asking me why I blocked you and having a full on conversation with paragraphs with someone who you don’t care about like that anymore?

I’m 23 this too shall pass but it kinda pushed me back a notch in my healing process. It was my fault for even giving him the time or day and even responding to him.
Any advice ?

This is so incredibly childish; you’re 23. I don’t know if you’re interested in the whole marriage and child business but if you are, I wouldn’t be wasting years on chasing someone who has told you very clearly that they have no interest in any of that with you. It’s not like you need to settle down now but I wouldn’t be spending so much thought and energy on someone who was clear that it will never be an option with them. Have fun with people and one day someone may be the one to make a life with. He is not it.

He’s just now told me that. This was my first time hearing all of that from him. I didn’t even ask or tell him I want a relationship again. All I said was I felt like he was playing with me. I’m not understanding we’re you guys are getting the impression that I wanted a relationship with him again? Yes we’ve been in contact and feeling we’re still present on my end which is expected “he was my first”. So that’s why maybe I have feelings that I should have been gotten over.

yet I’ve dated men since then and have been intimate with them. So moving on hasn’t been a problem for me. He’s was the one questioning me before we hooked up. Literally asking me to my face if I’ve been with other men, have I kissed other men etc. literally begging me to tell him if I have. Then proceeded to tell me he didn’t believe my answer when I told him no. Most people don’t even have that conversation when hooking up unless they are worried about sexual transmitted diseases. Which he said he wasn’t worried about that, he was just curious.

So this whole “I told you, I wanted to be friends etc” was never told to me until now. Of course I knew that what we had wasn’t going to come back I knew it was over, yet like I said that was never told to me until now.

he’s a game player and likes getting his ego stroked. I’m over the whole situation. I’m a beautiful woman and have no problem attracting men who want relationships with me. I appreciate all you guys replies even that ones that were hard to hear!