Men. What do you need?

[Lucy Long Socks]

Just wondering what men require from a long term relationship. Physical and mental, family, friends, the home, work, holidays. Anything really. What will make you stick around and enjoy it. Or not enjoy it. Interested.

This is exactly what my husband gets. He’s still around so maybe it’s true 😂

I saw a quote somewhere that said:
”Ask a man to describe ideal partner and they describe a slave and a prostitute”.

Looks like they weren’t wrong.
Sadly.

"No nagging" means what? Shirking your household responsibilities without any comeback?

No wonder so many women are thankful to be bi or gay these days. Options are everything!

An oasis in the desert.

Exactly. So basic and gross. The way women are expected to do anal these days as par for course. What about intellect, humour, affection and the rest?

I asked my DH and he said ‘No drama’. That’s the most important thing. Apparently we could have sex 10 times a week with me having a steak dinner on the table every night for him, but if I was a moody arse flitting from crisis to crisis he’d be out the door.

Just be reasonable, in everything from sex to conversation to money to holidays to work to what to watch on the tele. No drama.

I came back to this too late. Everything is getting deleted. I was looking forward to a good read.

I REALLY want to know what the first post said 😂

It was a real literary masterpiece.

I actually asked DP this yesterday coincidentally.
It's essentially being treated like he has intrinsic value, like you're glad he's in your life, not that he's lucky to have you. Not becuase he does stuff for you or provides money, but becuase he as a person is worth something to you.

Being respected and cared about.

Being understood, allowed to have emotions, not having to be strong and silent all the time.

And yes, being desired, feeling like your partner finds you attractive, that sex isn't a hardship.

Essentially the same thing we all want surely? We're all human beings, we all have emotional needs.

They want to like you. No matter you age, shape, size, they just need to have someone that just has this specific thing about them that they like and is strong enough to keep them here forever other than looking elsewhere, even that yes, younger better visualities exist and abound. A good man had a caring heart also and forgives her if she gets emotional, insecure or sometimes does not know how to earn money

@blacksax plenty of women who want nothing more from their husbands than a good 'lifestyle' it works both ways.

and not too much nagging.

What a thoroughly unpleasant thread

To have a woman who initiates would be a good start, i literally don't ask for much, and i do my fair share of housework, i even know to put the toilet seat back down, without being told.

Mostly I think they want someone who gives them what they want sexually, takes care of them ie. Washes their clothes, cooks, organises things for them, makes them feel special etc etc.

Basically someone who puts them first. Generally with low expectations of them in return.

I blame society for this.

All I require is my family to be happy if they are happy then I am happy I will work my arse off to the bone and always find a plan, whatever my wife and kids want I will try my hardest to provide, if my wife doesn't want to work then so be it if she does then so be it, I do my fair share and help where ever my wife needs it

I just want to know how on earth OP has got a username with spaces in it

Ha! Don't forget money! Mine walked out in a very healthy sex life, and happy family life when he realised that my father had not left me £££ when he died. Ran off with a very wealthy woman. Carried on affairs behind her back to satisfy the sex side. Stayed with her as she protected her money legally so it's all sunshine and roses as long as he stays. So he does.

None of my sons expect this? They enjoy equal partnerships with their partners. They are in love, and with that comes respect, fun, compromise and effort.

You should be more interested in what you need, what makes you stick around and what makes you enjoy it. Then if someone comes along that can give you that and you can make them happy too, go for it.

@Borninabarn32 what your DH says is spot-on for me.