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Brother disowned my partner advice

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Simplymeunapologetically · 27/08/2024 13:55

Hi Everyone

Am I going crazy?
In short we had a night out booked, my partner and I, my brother and his partner and my son.
On the night my partner said he may leave early.
My brother then cancelled and didn't come because he said my partner was out of order to him!

I no longer have a relationship with my brother because he says my partner was out of order towards him for suggesting he may leave early.

I say it's nothing to do with my brother and my partner doesn't have to answer to him.

Am I wrong?
Thanks

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Simplymeunapologetically · 27/08/2024 22:22

PullTheBricksDown · 27/08/2024 20:32

So this all came about over something that didn't even happen in the end?

Your brother clearly wants to create a disagreement. Let him. How much will it change your life?

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Yes. My partner mentioned he might leave early when we go on the dancefloor so my brother and his partner didn't come out. Turns out when we got there my partner was enjoying himself and decided he would stay.

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Simplymeunapologetically · 27/08/2024 22:25

Ihopeithinkiknow · 27/08/2024 20:42

I wouldn't give a shit if any of my brothers or sisters partners wanted to leave early or not come at all to anything I had planned because why would I 🤨 maybe I'm far 2 laid back but life is far 2 short for this bullshit. Also can't see any of my siblings kicking off about partners leaving early it's a non issue and your brother sounds like a controlling nob

You're like me. I don't give a shit what others do that's why I'm so taken aback that I'm still talking about my partner saying he might leave early in April but didn't in the end. Ridiculous

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Dontbeme · 27/08/2024 22:39

Have you asked your brother why it's okay for his DP to regularly go home early, but when your DP does it your brother kicks off?

Your brother sounds controlling of you and seems to be attempting to wreck your relationship. Being honest with yourself, would your brother happier if you were single or in a bad relationship so he would feel needed or superior to you?

Vroomfondleswaistcoat · 28/08/2024 12:31

When you say that your brother has always been 'highly strung' - has he ever had mental health problems? Because he sounds unnecessarily over-dramatic, almost in a 'don't look over there, look at MEEEEEE' kind of way, and if this is escalating then it could be due to poor mental health. But then I would have thought his partner would have mentioned this to you when you contacted him rather than just say he wanted to keep out of it.

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