I always go for unattractive men?

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Hi ladies

just want your thoughts on this…

im newly single after being in a relationship for 6 years. Although the relationship has ended I can safely say we shared a great time together, lots of laughter and fun.

now im getting back out there and going on dates my friends ask me to show them pics of the men im talking to and meeting up with. Whenever I show them they always say the same thing ‘you can do so much better’ ‘he’s really not attractive’

for me I’ve always gone for men who are funny. As crude as it sounds I can definitely be laughed into bed! I love to laugh and I love to have fun. I go for someone who is kind, caring, and attentive.

dating apps are all about looks so I must somewhat fancy them to match but once the conversation gets going, it’s either like pulling teeth or it’s a great conversation that flows. If it flows and we get to know each other a bit and then they ask to take me out I absolutely do not say no.

however my friends are now lecturing me on how I’m beautiful and not seeing my worth and can do much better. I’m always settling and so on. Even my ex they tell me I could have done better.

for me it’s just not solely about looks. Obviously I have to fancy someone in order to have that sexual attraction but if I do and they tick all the other boxes then for me I’m happy. I wouldn’t say this is settling.

AIBU to feel annoyed at my friends for keep telling me that I can do better? It does make me feel really embarrassed that they constantly say this.

@GreyCarpet There's little less attractive than an insecure man with a fragile ego, poor grammar and an acute awareness of their own inadequacies.

And yet, insecure men who can hardly write and write things like "should of" always seem to be in a relationship. Why?

Not with me they're not! 😉😂

I don't know.

I suppose there must be a large number of people of both sexes who don't care or whose grammar is equally poor.

Some people have very low standards and would rather be with someone than no one.

Some people feel that their partner's attractiveness reflects on their own worth.

Poor spelling and grammar is a deal breaker for me. Unfortunately the majority of the men who messaged me on OLD either wrote in text speak, could barely string 5 words together or thought 👋 or 🌹was a conversation.

I’ve received messsges where I’ve had to read them 5/6 times and still couldn’t really work out what they were saying.

The struggle is very very real

You've got it bang on OP.

Don't listen to your friends.
Being with a boring man, is death by a thousand swords.

• Poor spelling and grammar is a deal breaker for me. Unfortunately the majority of the men who messaged me on OLD either wrote in text speak, could barely string 5 words together or thought 👋 or 🌹was a conversation.

I’ve received messsges where I’ve had to read them 5/6 times and still couldn’t really work out what they were saying.

The struggle is very very real*

Poor spelling and grammar is an ick of mine. All the conventionally attractive men I meet seem to be reasonably intelligent and well educated though. It's like a certain degree of intelligence is required to take care of yourself and make yourself attractive to women - very few men are showstoppingly handsome with zero effort / awareness of what the opposite sex finds attractive.

As for the messages on OLD, I've had some so unintelligible I've had to check they weren't an anagram.

For a time only. Looks matter in the long run.