I always go for unattractive men?

[Whyyougottobeanonymous]

Hi ladies

just want your thoughts on this…

im newly single after being in a relationship for 6 years. Although the relationship has ended I can safely say we shared a great time together, lots of laughter and fun.

now im getting back out there and going on dates my friends ask me to show them pics of the men im talking to and meeting up with. Whenever I show them they always say the same thing ‘you can do so much better’ ‘he’s really not attractive’

for me I’ve always gone for men who are funny. As crude as it sounds I can definitely be laughed into bed! I love to laugh and I love to have fun. I go for someone who is kind, caring, and attentive.

dating apps are all about looks so I must somewhat fancy them to match but once the conversation gets going, it’s either like pulling teeth or it’s a great conversation that flows. If it flows and we get to know each other a bit and then they ask to take me out I absolutely do not say no.

however my friends are now lecturing me on how I’m beautiful and not seeing my worth and can do much better. I’m always settling and so on. Even my ex they tell me I could have done better.

for me it’s just not solely about looks. Obviously I have to fancy someone in order to have that sexual attraction but if I do and they tick all the other boxes then for me I’m happy. I wouldn’t say this is settling.

AIBU to feel annoyed at my friends for keep telling me that I can do better? It does make me feel really embarrassed that they constantly say this.

Why is it men are so focused on looks (they are, lets admit it) yet women, can overlook that and fall for the person within.

I see nothing wrong with women saying, look you can attract someone better looking.

Men do it all the time.

My friend always dated less attractive men. She said they have to try harder so are more attentive with a better personality 🤷‍♀️

she’s probably not wrong…

My husband didn’t blow me away with looks and charisma, I fell for him slowly as I realised he was a really kind person.

Sounds like you need to dump the shallow friends tbh

Because she told me that she purposely dated less attractive men. She’s looks like a model. I get there’s subjectivity, but based on the average persons view of looks alone she was dating less attractive men.

Some.might but some also take it out on the woman for bring more attractive than them.

I find short men attractive. Some of them aren't bothered by it but some have such a chip on their shoulder it makes them virtually undateable.

That's why personality matters so much more.

🤣 that’s quite an assumption from my reply! Where did I say I don’t find men’s bodies attractive? I do but only when I find them attractive as a person. I put highest value on other things. I absolutely don’t watch lesbian prom! Have another read!

I think let the shallow people date people for their looks, leave the plainer but quality men for the rest of us! 😁

There are some right weirdos who are obsessed with looks, some not a million miles from this very thread, hem hem... 😏

Women don't have cocks, dur 🤷🏻‍♀️😂

Are you a conplete moron in real life too?

And what does it matter to you who or what anyone on here is attracted to?

You have your girlfriend of a year who loves your muscles. Good for you 👍🏻

Why do you even care? 🤷🏻‍♀️

Well that's your issue, mate. Nowt to do with anyone on here 👍🏻

As someone has previously said, beauty is in the eye of the beholder.

Nobody has the same taste either & some people genuinely don’t care about looks. I find once I know someone’s personality their either become better looking or uglier to me as well.

My partner hates my taste in men as he always thinks the majority are quite ugly then says he also must be ugly! 🤣 I think he’s the much better looking out of the pair of us though.

I find once I know someone’s personality their either become better looking or uglier to me as well.

Same.

Comedy gold. 😂

Ok. I’ll tell her to avoid the less attractive ones with the great personalities then.

I suppose the problem is that, if someone doesn't have a personality and isn't a particularly likeable person, their looks might be all they have going for them.

If they don't care about their partner, their personality, their goals and ambitions, their achievements, their interests and their inner world, then they are only going to attract someone who is attracted to their looks because there is nothing else.

I suppose that paves the way for their partner to find someone else more physically attractive.

I mean, I'm sure that doesn't apply to anyone on this thread though.

There's little less attractive than an insecure man with a fragile ego, poor grammar and an acute awareness of their own inadequacies. Whatever they look like naked.

@safetyfreak I see nothing wrong with women saying, look you can attract someone better looking. Men do it all the time.

We don't.

We don't discuss our dating and romantic lives with other men- that would be really weird.