Invited friend for dinner and she didn't reply. Rude? Should I back away from friendship??

[Hosebush]

I have a friend who lives in the same city. We've been friends for over 10 years. During the past 10 years, we have met up for various things (dinners, trips,), went to each other's weddings and hen parties.

A few months ago, I invited her and her partner over for dinner, on a weekend that suits her. I said it could be at ours or in a nearby restaurant. She hasn't replied. I used WhatsApp, which she uses too

This is rude, isn't it? She has done this before in the past - just not replied when I've suggested something (though she doesn't ignore every time, and sometimes arranges dinners at her house which I've been to).

She has invited me to her birthday meal next weekend.

I'm inclined to say I can't make it, and just quietly back away from the friendship. Am I overreacting? What would others do?

Is it possible your message was so vague she didn't see it as a proposed date but a general statement like "let's meet up"? You didn't suggest a date (or dates) and the venue isn't clear either. I hate it when people aren't straight forward - which date and where is much better, so I don't have to mind read or make a decision. I have noticed other people prefer it that way too.

Yes - I think that's true - she prefers people to come to hers. Her house is not easy to get to. She's not someone who ventures out beyond her local area much (except for work). I guess some people are like that. But it does have an impact on friendships.