Ok, thanks in advance for reading this...many thanks!
Pretty anxious atm about this. Any , ANY thoughts are welcome.....
I am due to visit my eldest son tomorrow for the afternoon. He's 30 btw. I will be hopping on a coach (FYI - 4.5 hrs plus 1 hr to get to the coach station x2 incl return journey) . Have done this day trip a fair few times now since my son moved to this new place 4 yrs ago. I (we) also go and stay in a hotel occasionally too if doing an overnight stay. We meet every 3/4 months lets say.
Re tomorrow , I messaged 2 wks ago to ask if he was up to meeting for lunch on 15th Aug and if so I would pop up for the afternoon like I do s'times. He replied with a yes and thumbs up. All gd. I didn't do my usual , interestingly, with all info included in my text i.e. arrival /leaving time etc. This of course needs to be communicated. I have a hurt/gripe/criticism in terms of his communication , have posted on here about it recently actually , as in I dont hear from him unless I initiate it whether that be a msg/call/visit. He last visited last Dec. I didn't realise until y'day that times haven't been communicated between us for tomorrow. My Q is....shall I wait to see if he msgs /calls about tomorrow rather than do that myself? If I want a pattern of behaviour to change within this dynamic , surely I need to change what I keep on doing to get a different outcome? This is an opportunity for him to step forward ...no?
P.S. I can't wait to see him!