My husband left the family home 6 months ago, to “sort himself”. He was lazy unmotivated and left me to do everything. As we have a young child he said he needed time to focus on himself to get a better job and improve himself without any distractions, so he can come back and look after us. He moved back to his mums and 6 months later he has lost his job, his hygiene is even worse and he’s in a messy tiny room. I really want to believe he will improve but it looks like he’s drowning himself. I want to believe he can change but I’ve know him from a teenager and he’s always been slow, called lazy and “he’s going through teenage boy phase”. He’s 25 now, I pulled him up on it and he said he is trying and things are not instant, he claims this is not the same to his teenage laziness, but I can not see the difference . I am a hard working women, who has been left to pay for a home , work and look after a young child so he can sort himself. He is extremely upset that I said he’s not working hard enough, I just don’t understand how In 6 months he’s not found a decent job and a routine. I really don’t know what to do as we are married. I feel like he’s making excuses but I don’t want to be dismissive if he’s really trying but struggling.
Am I being unreasonable has anyone got advice ?
ps - He’s separated from me as he said he’s not where he wants to be but when he’s sorted he will come back. I keep asking him how long and he can’t tell me how long this “sorting himself “ will be. This is why I’m stuck between is he genuine or being a coward