Hi all,
Had a bit of an incident yesterday, I paid for the family to go to the cinema to start the holidays off. All was good, we all enjoyed the film or so I thought. As soon as we got out of the cinema doors my partner said he didn’t like the film it was shit. Ok, well not a nice thing to say it was a kids film mainly for them but ok.
Before the film my daughter asked for a five guys which I’d already said not today, maybe at the weekend (they’d already been fed at home btw) trying to not overspend atm as 6 weeks to get through yet lol. So we got outside and caught upto my partner who had been walking far ahead of us and had stopped. He said to my daughter ‘your mum said she’s going to take you for a five guys now.’ I said er I didn’t say that (I feel guilty now on my daughter who looked happy) I said but if you would like to go get the kids one then feel free. He said no, you said you were going to get one. I said sorry but I DIDNT say that. He started shouting at me (I can’t even remember what was being said) but everyone was walking past and staring at us, I felt really embarrassed and he’d stormed off again and left us while he went back to the car so we had to do the walk of shame miles behind him again.
Got home and he ignored me all night despite me trying to talk, told him I was going shopping, walked the dog, he just said fine without looking up at me. He made food without me. I ended up grabbing my pillows and sleeping downstairs after being ignored all night.
This morning he acted like nothing was wrong so I said are we just going to ignore what happened yesterday or can we talk about this? He said he didn’t have time but then proceeded to tell me he’d done nothing wrong. I said I was humiliated by him shouting at me in public, he said he didn’t shout but rolled his eyes like a naughty kids and said sorry IF I shouted.
He then said these articles keep coming up on his newsfeed about narcissists and I fit the description. I know his exes have said this about him, but it’s the first time I’ve been called one. Kind of hurtful as I don’t class myself as a selfish egotistical person. But maybe I just don’t see it. Obviously I told him I wasn’t, and I guessed I wouldn’t get a proper apology from him, he had a coffee he’d just made in his hand and jerked it toward me angrily like he wanted to throw it over me then walked off.
I don’t find the ‘jokes’ he makes funny, more cruel, he does things like that all the time but he says I’ve no sense of humour. I do have one, but what we find funny is completely different. I’m tired I guess and wonder if I’m in the wrong and uptight for not finding all of these things funny and not just moving on as he expects. Now because I didn’t just act like nothing happened yesterday it will probably drag on for days with him staying in the bedroom and me going about life on my own as normal.