He got angry about my birthday

[Mumwithlupus61]

So I'm with my partner for 13yrs now there's a 22yr age gap (I don't know if that matters?) We've got 1 child together. My bday was recently, partner had no money (doesnt work due to health). on the bday presented 2 cards, soap, bar of chocolate, from our child. Happy days, hes paid the next day, nothing. 2 days later no mention of bday does not make any effort to make amends. After 5 days I asked what's the story, you taking me out or what? He shrugs says dunno need to sort sitter etc. I asked have u tried to sort things? Ended up him shouting rolling eyes saying jesus c, why have I to listen to all this, and ended up tells me to fk off. I'm at a loss. Feels like I've poked a dragon or something, I'm expecting too much from him? Should he not want to "date" his woman? Should he not want to spend time together just us two? Out, not stuck in on the sofa every single night, which we do! Am I not worth the effort?

What do or did you do for his birthday ?

You seem to lack a fundamental understanding of budgeting. If he gave you what he could afford on your birthday, that didn’t really change once he got paid. He needs to make that money last.

If things are tight, there is nothing wrong with his gift.

Why isn’t he paying anything towards the household?

Isn’t that the main problem?

I would say his age is only an excuse if he is really old, like 80. Did you get together when you were really young?

She lacks a fundamental understanding of budgeting?! She pays for everything. His benefits are his disposable income.

Your life sounds beyond depressing OP, and unfortunately I can't see how it's going to get any better. Because the only thing a rude demotivated inattentive middle age man turns into is the same but older. I get money is tight, but there were ways he could have made the day special. Cooked you a meal, even been affectionate and warm with you and suggested netflix and popcorn. He did nothing snd dragged you down. Assuming you want to stay with him, I'd I were you I'd be trying to build a bit of a life for myself independently. If he doesn't want to go out, could you not go out with a friend?