Fiancé looks at porn and masturbates after sex (he finished)

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I’m feeling slightly concerns with my fiancés recent actions. Note I’m generally not the masturbation police and would expect it for DH working away or at home alone bored no sex for a while ect!
having said that my partner has always explained to me in past that porn isn’t really his thing and that he doesn’t quite get the obsession of you have a women who you are attracted to and are completely satisfied with.
having said that I was shocked to find my fiancé stood in the kitchen with a semi hard on scrolling through porn hun approx 2 hours after we had sex and he finished.
he was mortified and I was furious because of the I appropriateness, we live in a small flat it’s was approx 7pm myself and kids were sat awake in the living room reading stories
fast forward to this morning I brought it up again and asked him if this was normal behaviour given his previous attitude regarding porn and he said it’s very normal he knows of men who go into the shower immediately after sex and masturbate the key concerned for me here is that he added “ if they don’t cheat this is normal behaviour”
he then back pedalled become confused said he didn’t know what he was saying cause he was half asleep didn’t mean it like that ect ect.

I am left feeling concerned that I’m not enough anymore his statement endorsed to me that whilst he would never cheat on me he isn’t fulfilled am I over reading this ….honest opinions please

Blimey, are you taking part in the Olympics later this month? Because that's quite the leap.

Nasty.

Honestly I would have instant ick. Instant.

Couldn't care less about masturbation or porn but what I would care about is my husband doing it in the kitchen and watching porn in a communal space where the kids could discover him.

Absolute grubby little man. Ick, ick, ick.

Jeez these answers. It was very clear he wasn’t naked and wanking in the kitchen. What’s wrong with folks they’d even jump to that.

Because the OP mentions masturbating to porn in her title so naturally people think that's what her thread is about.

@SmokinPole most realist answer on here thank you appreciate the stance on the situation. I saw the title of it but rather not say on here for another onslaught of backlash about how disgraceful he is!

The entire situation doesn’t sit right with me but we have had a similar conversation where he has admitted that after sex even when he finishes his body doesn’t return to normal for quite a while after it’s as though he can go and go again. It was out of character for him to actually act on that feeling and google anything but I’ve got the ICK badly like badly badly. I feel worthless and like I’ve been with someone For the last 8 years who I don’t even know !

Well as long as it wasnt anything too contentious then there's no real harm done. I dare say a LOT of DHs on here look at stuff their wives wouldnt have a clue about. We can blame the internet!

This is not out of character- its just not made it into your awareness before now.

I echo other posters. If you are concerned you "aren't enough" I think you need to rethink priorities.

He has his phone 📱 on a porn channel.
He is sporting an erection -

In the KITCHEN where kids could walk in at any moment-
He didn’t even retreat to the lavatory to lock himself away from the children.

He’s making excuses.

Was only a semi.

She does, but if anyone reads the actual op it is very clear he wasn’t naked and wanking in the kitchen. He was on his phone. Fully clothed. With a semi.

That shows it was “Thinking about it”
Or maybe it was deflating after finishing…?

That wasn't clear from the OP at all. Her thread is about masturbating to porn and she talks about him being in the kitchen with an erection. No mention of his state of dress. It's not a leap to think that means he was masturbating in the kitchen while looking at porn.

The issue here is masturbating where the kids might see.

Men these days probably do look at porn on phones as opposed to the “Razzle” and “ Playboy “ magazines that pre net men had access to.

Kids seeing a parent masturbating is not good-

It’s best done in private ( like sex is )

Kids don’t need to be seeing such things.

He wasn't masturbating.

By who? The nanny?

@oakleaffy wasnt fully erect caught in the action! I honestly think he would have done what it took to not go that far knowing anyone could walk in. I also do think he premeditated masturbating but maybe felt something got curious and had a sneaky look. Does it make me feel shit - yes it does ! Am I questioning his character - yes!
man I left wondering if this is a regular thing well hidden - yes ! But given we live in a small flat and are on top of each others feet I think I would have had more than a few experiences of feeling like this than just the one I’ve had recently. I’m not looking for validation weather the circumstance we’re inappropriate I’m questioning his motives and weather this blip is salvageable or downward spiral because I am not fulfilling his sexual appetite ! Whilst a lot of Karen’s will be disgusted I come from a world where Masturbation is deemed relatively normal he wasn’t masturbating in a communal area he looked at something and is clearly playing down his excitement in that momentt which has me questioning myself considering we had sex that day

@TheHuntSyndicate doubtful as he wouldn’t have tried to hide it as much she did and feel as embarrassed

He has a high sex drive by the sounds of it. Im assuming he's not that old as he's talking about a post wank in the shower which isnt that common in the older man. I dont think you can be jealous of porn, espesh when you got him over the line in the first place and he probably just wanted more so went for a quick look at some smut online.

Cheat on him, mine wouldn't stop watching porn and I felt really worthless but our lives were too entwined to realistically split so I started cheating and I feel ontop of the world

It’s one thing to have a high sex drive and feel the need to masturbate more frequently/watch porn, it’s entirely another thing to be stood in the kitchen with your wife and kids in the next room watching porn on your phone.

@tresales hahaha this shouldn’t but really made me laugh

Masturbating is fine. It's the PORN that is not fine, is dangerous to women and to society. Have some self-respect and don't accept him ever accessing porn again.

Almost all men like a bit of porn. Blame the internet for putting it in the pocket of all of us rather than on the top shelf of the newsagents.

Whilst a lot of Karen’s will be disgusted (...)

What the fuck OP?? Care to explain who and what Karen's are?