Met a guy a year ago, struck up a friendly rapport. He reached out a bit asking me to do this, didn't think anything of it.
Had a six week thing, the ex who if never heard of got in touch. He was with her for four years. And so that was the end of us until he kept reaching out, never confirming he was with his ex and eventually admitting he didn't say so as he knew I wouldn't see him if I knew.
We have seen eachother platonically a few times this year. A couple of romantic moments instigated by him which I immediately stopped. It was only a short time we had our thing so in ways I tried to be friends as really enjoy his company (even though he lied) and in hindsight wasn't in the best place. And alas I got I supposed a bit attached.
A year on he still gets in touch. Why???? I knock him back explaining I've no desire to be a number 2 or whatever, can't really be his friend. It's god damn hard as I really miss hanging out with him but I know I have strong feelings for him. He is relentless though. Texted me first thing on my birthday, I said thanks, I know he was warming me up again to see if we could hang out.
Why why - of course the very stupid part of my brain think oh we are destined very very occasionally and then the rest of the time, I move on. Then he gets in touch again and then I am set back and miss him again if though I don't agree to see him. I know intermittent reinforcement etc, but I genuinely miss his company and this is so hard.
I don't want to block him, I see him about too much for that. But I just want to understand why he still wants to see me.