Husband told me I wasn’t cut out for pregnancy

[Barkermum2024]

So, this might be the pregnancy hormones but I wanted to get some more opinions. I have just been diagnosed with pelvic girdle pain. It is so severe that I struggle to walk sometimes and I’ve been referred to a physio therapist for help.
Sometimes it brings me down. I wonder why my body is struggling so much. I want so badly to be good at this and be good at being a mother. My logical brain knows that being in pain doesn’t mean I’m bad at being pregnant but sometimes I get a bit down when I’m in so much pain all the time.
Today I was walking to the bathroom and had to get on the floor of the kitchen because I was in so much pain and couldn’t make it. I called my husband to help assist me and he told me that maybe I wasn’t cut out for pregnancy.
this really hurt me. I’ve been crying about it since he said it and he knows it’s upset me. I want more children - we both do - and now I feel like a liability and I’m “bad” at being a pregnant woman.
he has apologized and I don’t hold it against him but I wondered if any other mums out there have felt the same way at all?

I think it was a shitty thing to say.

It implies that if you were doing a better job of it, you wouldn't be in so much pain. That somehow you're failing.

Well, I hope that's NOT how he meant it and that he, generally, doesn't put you down with similar comments.

Exactly, this was my interpretation too

I was awful at being pregnant! Felt like such a failure! I had HG until 20weeks , pelvic girdle pain, horrific acid reflux from 6weeks till birth!, low platelets, low iron, low b12, low folate in third trimester!, Kept passing out and ended up in a wheel chair the last 8 weeks!

Honestly you are not failing at growing a human and that's all that matters. Every pregnancy is different.When you see your beautiful baby it will all go over your head.

I f**king hate being pregnant! I get pgp too. And gestational diabetes. But I grew my babies in my body- that is a successful pregnancy. And though I say it myself I'm a brilliant mum.

Pregnancy is 9 months and being a mother is for life. Focus on that