Boyfriend is cheating on me

[durtina]

I have just found a letter in my Bf draw from another woman. Seems he has been having an affair with another woman from March this year.

How do i confront him. What should i do?

decide what you want from teh confrontation

do you want him to leave? do you want to work things through?

do you have children together?

i would just sit him down and show him the letter, and wait for his reaction.

Put it on the refrigerator or somewhere where he can't miss it. He'll know you know and be forced to come talk to you.

"Put it on the refrigerator or somewhere where he can't miss it."

Do you do this before or after packing his bags and changing the locks?

If I was a strong person, I would do something like mom2lb suggests. Why should you suffer the indignity and have to explain why your were in his drawers, etc? It puts you on the wrong foot, when it's clearly him that needs to do the explaining.

I don't think I've got it in me, and would go down the 'screaming blue murder, chucking him out' road. But that just leaves you without a dp and no explanation, no way of working it through.
Sorry you are ging through this INSS. Awful, awful thing to happen. You must be out of your head with worry and fear.

Be true to your heart and your soul, keep your dignity, i have been shat over for years now. I would love the secret that makes that not happen. But if it does happen, breathe deeply, don't let him blame you, feel strong, get the upper hand