Googled my boyfriends name..confused now

[Alexanadra]

Googled my boyfriend of 2 and a half years out of curiosity. He is a computer genius and writes papers. His name came up under a respectable looking site but when I pressed it a porn chat site came up. I asked him about it and he went crazy and said his Internet blocks porn sites so how could he look at them.However he is very secretive and has several phones and laptops for his work in several universities.Reason am confused is he doesn't seem to care if we have sex or not and says he has a low sex drive. Doesn't make much effort for me tbh but am I being paranoid?

What’s his name?

If it’s something like Big Daddy bondage Man then I can see how this confusion has arisen on Google search.

I just Googled myself 😆 nothing controversial just says I am on the local council list of personal alcohol licence holders which is correct

I get a sense OP you aren't also university educated, or are very young?

What's he told you he does, and how exactly did you make the porn site op up?

This is all quite weird. The worst thing to me is probably his reaction - if someone googled me and it somehow linked to porn that was nothing to do with me then I don't think I'd see it as a big deal. So why did he "go crazy"?

I just googled my name and it came up with a photographer in California and a software engineer in Los Angeles.

he doesn't seem to care if we have sex or not and says he has a low sex drive. Doesn't make much effort for me tbh

That's way more of a problem, surely.

I'm a variety of experts in a number of fields and one of me goes to the same dentist as me.

But you have suspicions and concerns. Listen to them.

Oh and nobody has "several phones" for working in Universities. Or any other job for that matter. Apart from maybe MI5.

Actually this bit rings true. I work for a university. Our security software that you have to have on laptops and phones if you use them for work purposes is such that it's recommended that those people who work for multiple universities (very common) use different devices for each job.

Just googled myself and unfortunately I seem to have died, but on the plus side, I had a special needs school named after me in my honour.

Looking at this another way. I have a genuinely unique name. If you google my name you get me, and no one else. This means I am very careful about what I post online using my name as I know it won't get lost in obscurity.
Someone who is a "computer genius" would definitely be equally careful!

Just googled myself and unfortunately I seem to have died

I’m so sorry to hear that.

His name came up under a respectable looking site but when I pressed it a porn chat site came up.

What is a porn chat site? And why would he use his full/actual name for that?

Is it possible you’re having issues anyway around his secrecy and lack of sex, and that’s led you to just find something online you can grasp onto as a way to bring up the topic?

I'm an award winning hairdresser apparently! Very proud of my namesake's accomplishments!

According To Google my dh is a dj when I search his name! He very much is not😆

I think it really would depend on how I was confronted. If I had a tiring day at work, came home and my partner jumped at my throat for being a secret porn star I can see myself “going crazy” and probably also thinking my partner is an idiot.

Btw, if you stop paying for hosting your website the domain name can still show up in Google but the site will be ads from the service provider. A lot of the blogs I used to read 10-15 years ago that are no longer active leads me to ads for local plumbers n stuff. Was the porn site an actual site or an ad for one?

I work for the UN apparently

I mean it’s possible he’s has an OnlyFans account in his own name and spends his spare time filming himself inserting cucumbers into his bottom for money but it’s far more likely you’re feeling paranoid and insecure because he’s stopped showing an interest in you.

Points to consider:
1 Its unlikely he’s the only person in the world with that name

2 Clicking on dubious links or pop up ads on your phone can take you to porn sites

Surely he would know how to hide his name ?

If I Google my sons name it comes up with a serial killer on death row in the US. He is definitely not in jail and lives in Milton Keynes.

Do you want to address the lack of sex and no effort ? Doesn't sound like much of a relationship to me.

In what way was his name on a porn chat site? Like a sex forum? And his username was his full name? A name which is unique? This makes so little sense.

Regardless of whether he was on a porn site, why he’s so secretive or if he’s a porn addict. You’re 2.5 years in and your sex drives are already mismatched and you already say you feel like he doesn’t care about you. The rest is a red herring. You don’t feel valued in your relationship and it’s still early in the relationship, don’t settle for a life of this.

He has been lying to you for years 😂

Yeah that time he got back late after visiting his elderly relative? Dropping a banging set of old school house and trance at the The Ministry more like.

@FloydPink Haha! God yeah, you might be right🤔 time to get them in a row🦆🦆🦆🦆