Does your husband tell you when meeting a friend during the day?

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If your husband is meeting a friend for lunch or coffee during the working day, would you expect him to tell you?

And what about if it’s after work, but he just comes home late from work so you assume he’s been working late in the office?

No question of an inappropriate relationship. It’s just the not sharing that has thrown me off, and potentially lying by omission for the latter scenario.

He has no reason to worry about my reaction so I don’t understand why he had to hide it. He claimed it’s because I react badly to him meeting another friend so he’s put all female friends in that category but that’s not fair

You may not think its fair that he feels that way but seems that he may well feel that you'll react badly, fair or not he seems to be a little afraid of your reaction.

Doesn’t happen often at all for my OH.
During the day- no probably not. If it had been prearranged he might tell me during the course of conversation the night before or morning but if arranged on the day no and I wouldn’t expect it.
After work/evening- yes, a simple courtesy because I would wonder where he was and sometimes we need to coordinate who is picking up our DD from childcare.

No your not in the wrong - why did they meet up again - they have a history together - I’d really not be happy meeting up with her - I’d get more detail and tell him he’s playing with fire.

Mine would tell me he had ‘a meeting’. Not specifying who or what. Turned out to be other women he’d found on various dating sites. Those that would see him again became regulars.

Usually we share what we did on the day so he'd say then. But if we were both busy and didn't spend the evening together we may not tell each other. Probably if it affected dinner time we'd say if we were meeting someone, just so the other didn't prep a meal unnecessarily. Lunch time meet up we probably may not bother unless we knew the person being met.

Does he have a lot of female friends?

Not during the day but after work yes. It's common courtesy to let you know he'll be late home and why. If you were telling him he couldn't or prying into the meeting his friends other than hope you had a good time then that passes into controlling what he's doing. I wouldn't give a rats behind what my hubby did with his dinner hour but home late I do as I worry without being told and have young kids at home that look forward to their dad being at home. A quick hi love, don't do tea for me at usual time I'm going to meet so and so after work is curteous and the normal thing to do. My usual answer is ok what time shall I expect you back and will it be before kids go to bed as they go between 6-6.30. That way they're not expecting him and I can get on with things at home. Not saying anything is just plain rude.

He wouldn't tel me who he had met during the day. He knows loads of people and sometimes tries to catch up with them for coffee when he is at work. He would tell me if he was meeting someone after work as he would be late home for dinner. I have no issue with him meeting people whether male or female as I trust him completely.