Ex boyfriend staying

[cityofstairs]

my ex boyfriend is travelling from 3 hours away to come here and help me with things around the house he’s the only person available to do it right now i don’t know if he would have to stay here because by the time he’s helped me he’ll be too tired to go back he’s asked for compensation what kind of things should I give him for that? I have the one bedroom but I could ask he sleeps on the couch or something. We’re on ok terms

I can’t afford to hire someone it’s just jobs around the house

What on earth does he mean by compensation??

Ask him what he means by compensation

I really don’t know he said he would need to be compensated for it

Yes I assume he means he wants paying for it which is absolutely fair enough considering he’s an ex and travelling 3 hours each way. At a minimum you need to be offering to pay for his fuel there & back and maybe £50 for the days work?

That's giving me creepy vibes.

My first thought is he wants sex but I’m cynical.

Ditto.

I must be cynical too as that was my first thought

My first thought too!

Depends on the problem.

The whole point in him doing this for me is because I can’t afford to hire someone for it so I can’t be throwing cash at this.
I need him to lay flooring for me and paint the tops of the walls, and some assembly

you sound a little innocent chances are that he will want paying certainly but not with money

How would we know? Best to sort out any 'compensation' before he travels or just cancel and paint the walls yourself

Yeah... another one reading 'compensation' to be code for a no-strings shag.

I will think of a way to ask him if that’s what he means. I don’t want him to get defensive.

Obviously sex or money.

Exactly what I thought

I would assume he wants reimbursing for his petrol and maybe his labour.

I'm not sure I would immediately leap to a sexual transaction, but if you're not open to this, perhaps clarify with him exactly what he means before he schleps over

Make it clear what compensation means before he gets there

Time for you to learn some DIY skills unless you're happy to be paying with sex everytime you need a flat pack putting together....

OK, so the reason you can't do these jobs yourself is? Or thatyou can't ask friends or family? Surely anything is better than sexual favours for DIY?

15 minutes hand relief.

Yes he means sex. Are you up for that?

I'd tell him to fuck off and cancel him coming to help.