Weve been together 25 years. We are married but on the rocks. Children (school age). Both work full time. Currently renting.
he drinks daily 4-5 cans a night, more on weekends/holidays. Always in a pissed off mood. I feel like im in the middle of him and the kids. Generally the kids behave for me, i spend a lot of time with them, i feel like a single parent. He never steps up. Its all left to me (food shopping, cleaning, running kids to school/clubs, taking them out to play dates/down the park). Hes either sat at home drinking, meeting mates to catch up at the pub or away with mates drinking over a weekend. He doesn’t think theres an issue here and doesn’t believe hes an alcoholic. All i have to do is ask apparently for anything that needs doing around the house. Ive got the whole mental load. He says his drinking is normal. Hes always been a big drinker. I thought he would rein it in once we had kids, he said as much. Just another empty promise
anyway he knows im not happy, ive raised it before.
tonight one of the kids had been naughty and taken the tv controller and hid it in plain sight. H went mad, im talking swearing at the child, shouting, slamming doors and very aggressive. Then starts on me as apparently i dont discipline them. I was trying to talk rationally and calm to him but then hes swearing at me calling me stuff in front of the child. Its not on. I said hes acting worse than a ten year old. Sorry just need to tell someone as i cant irl