setting a little test for DH

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do you ever simply get so frustrated by your partners inability to see whats in front of their eyes.

wheres my keys... right where you left them, where's the nappy sacks.. exactly where they were last time.

so today, i've decided to put my DH to the test.. we've had the grandbabies visit today, i put all the guffins away because 'he's forgotten how to fold up'. this that or other.

there an un-used nappy sack, next to the hearth... its been there now since 3pm, and normally i would just pick it up and put it away, the same as i would put things on the stairs, he will step over them, i ofcourse will pick them up and carry they up.

I wonder exactly how long it will be before he moves it, cos i won't

todays update... granted its only lunchtime.. i am heading out to church now to beg for forgiveness

God yes this. H used to constantly say he couldn't find x or y. I used to say if I come in and find it without 2 mins then you're in trouble- he doesn't ask any longer!

He used to do it to his mum too. He's say she's loved my wallet when she's put it in the only drawer in his room. She'd say it's in-the drawer but unless it actually kept out and introduced itself he couldn't ever find it. I had no truck with DS doing this and he quite happily looks after his own stuff, tidies his own things away and very rarely asks me if I've seen something of his.

Love this! Yes they should get you (and all of the women who have this innate ability to find stuff) on the force immediately! How many crimes could we clear up at a record rate I wonder

In the beginning of our marriage, DH used to leave his car keys all over the place.

As he parked behind me, I inevitably had to help him look for it every morning in a mad rush.

One morning I sat down on the sofa, phoned my work to tell them I would be late and started reading a magazine.

He was flabbergasted that I didn't want to 'help' him. I'd read somewhere that you should do that with kids when they always make you late for school. We didn't have kids at the time, but it sure worked on DH.

He's been much better since.

My DH has a thing about batteries and won't put them in the recycling tub until he's checked each and every one is dead. We currently have a little tray with at least 15 AA batteries in, next to the sink in the kitchen. He reckons there's probably enough charge in all of them to power the kitchen clock for a few days, the only clock in the house that is battery powered. One of these days I am going to put them all in the recycling, but that will be the day the kitchen clock stops ticking.

Also they never have loose potatoes or sweet potatoes when he goes to Lidl, so he gets the wrong quantity, unnecessary packaging, and the jacket potatoes are tiny. Strangely, they always have loose ones of a decent size when I go. AKA he can't be arsed and if he fucks up sufficiently I'll take over.

My DS used the George Foreman grill for cheese toasties about 2 months ago, left it 'to cool' on the side. I waited a week and put it away (he's the only one who uses it).

He took it out to use yesterday and got stroppy because it was dirty.

Apparently it was my fault for putting it away dirty. He is too used to my giving in, cleaning it and putting it away.

He will realise at some point...

he can't be arsed and if he fucks up sufficiently I'll take over.

This deliberate tactic is called "weaponised incompetence" and I honestly don't know how you can tolerate being with someone who treats you with such contempt.

It’s not that they can’t see, it’s that they won’t see. They’re conditioned to just ask a woman to do it for them, because they cannot be fucked to do it themselves.

This.

I find it so sad how many women have to put up with this from Men. It's basically ingrained disrespect.

DH couldn't find his shorts for weeks. I must have washed them, moved them, mistakenly put them in my drawer. Despite me saying I haven't seen or touched them, it was still up to me they were missing.
Until he found them on his chair, he was almost miffed that I hadn't found them for him.
But he did make lunch for me today.....

I had been enjoying this thread and was looking forward to being able to update you in weeks to come about the screwdriver languishing on the bathroom floor that I mentioned yesterday.

Well he's gone and spoilt my fun. The screwdriver has gone!!! 😂

This thread has made me realise my house is normal. I think I live with slovenly lazy twats. All male, but they're just the same as all the other posters OHs here

Mine does this occasionally. in fact it has been getting more frequent come to think of it.

Again this morning he said he couldn't find his glasses case, (in a decently helpless tone of what on earth shall I do).

I suggested he pretend to be a woman and look for it.

To be fair to him, that's a very small item, OP. It's not used, so it's not smelly. I probably wouldn't notice it, either.

Many years ago, when I first started using MN, there was a thread about men leaving their underwear in a corner of the bathroom …. For weeks in some cases

one legendary m netter sowed mustard and cress in her dh’s bathroom-marooned. kecks,

he moved them.

OP, you've got a lovely clean and shiny fireplace!
Mine is liberally filled with dog hair and pawprints. And I live alone, so it's down to me to clean it... sigh.

alas i suffer with OCD.. so actuall leaving this little item on the floor is killing me.. but i am resolved! I'm working all day tomorrow, and hubby assures me he will 'hoover through'... but i also note he has been asked to care for grandchild for an hour or so, i know what 'hoovering through' actually means... fingers crossed its gone by tomorrow... but i suspect not!

its not just the males... i also have a 22 DD who lives at home (Before anyone jumps on me for allowing or enabling her, shes just finished uni, is saving for a house and starts a new job very soon, so she wont' ne here much longer).

In fairness to all of them.. i am OCD... i have mobility and back issues which is why hubby does the laundry and the recycling etc.

I used to have a bookshelf and the books were in size, colour and alphabetical order and a good friend used to come round and move the books about to annoy me... which it did... we now no longer have the bookshelf

I have OCD too, the other week someone thought it would be funny to mess around with the spice rack and turn the labels so they faced the back. I completely lost it 😂 I don't think anyone will try to do that again to see my reaction!

Some days I just do it all because I actually want to tidy and clean, other days it winds me up that no one else notices the mess or the random shoe in the middle of the floor.

🤣🤣

Today will be a test as him inside is babysitting for the grandchild for an hour....

I tried this a while ago with a 20L bag of cat litter, in the middle of the hall downstairs.He had to step over it to get to his office. I caved after 2 months

Oh no. I wouldn't be able to sleep a wink due to the relaxing tidy ambience that surrounds it.
Dammit!😬

We have lots of photos, postcards, magnets, etc on our fridge. DH took them all off as he needed to move the fridge.

He put all the stuff in a plastic tub and put it on an armchair in the living room. .

It was still on the chair three weeks later. I have cracked and moved it / sorted through it / binned a fair bit of it / replaced the nice photos on the fridge.

I was going to hold out to see if the box was going to stay on the chair for ever but we have visitors coming to stay for a couple of weeks who might want to sit there.