setting a little test for DH

[sentfrmmyiphone]

do you ever simply get so frustrated by your partners inability to see whats in front of their eyes.

wheres my keys... right where you left them, where's the nappy sacks.. exactly where they were last time.

so today, i've decided to put my DH to the test.. we've had the grandbabies visit today, i put all the guffins away because 'he's forgotten how to fold up'. this that or other.

there an un-used nappy sack, next to the hearth... its been there now since 3pm, and normally i would just pick it up and put it away, the same as i would put things on the stairs, he will step over them, i ofcourse will pick them up and carry they up.

I wonder exactly how long it will be before he moves it, cos i won't

oh gosh... please please please make him take the tesTt! im currently undergoing tests for cervical cancer and its scarry as hell..

make him do that poop!

Until you crack and pick them up.

They see them, they ignore them.

I live in a tip because I’ve stopped playing the game. I’m in work most of the time and out with friends as much as possible because there’s a little pile of “things” on the stairs that have been there for over two years “because I didn’t see them”.

I hear ya @sentfrmmyiphone MY DH is similar some days. Doesn't notice anything lying there, even if he put it there!

Also, I get 'have you seen this item... ' and 'do you know where that thing is?' etc etc etc some 3-5 times a week some weeks. When DD was visiting, some 5 months ago, she said 'DAD! Have you actually looked for it?!' And that's the thing! He never looks! He just asks me where it is.'

Since DD had a go some months ago, he has improved a bit but he still does it. ALSO, I have started to say 'LOOK for it why dontcha!? He literally CBA to make an effort to look. He wants ME to come and get it for him, so he has to make zero effort.

I also HATE him being on his computer (in the lounge diner, when I am in the lounge - and he is in the dining area.) Because he constantly asks me how to spell this, and how to spell that, and asks soooo many questions - and he keeps laughing at and commenting on what he is looking at! It makes it hard for me to concentrate on that I am looking at/watching/doing.

I often go in the garden to read or listen to music when he is on his computer. I hate it when it's cold or raining, as I have to stay in!

Ooo I've got an experiment like that going!!!!

DH has a couple of t-shirts that are hand wash only. He wore them last summer and I told him he would have to wash them as I had enough other washing to do. Well guess what, they are still in the bottom of the washing basket 😂

It's been 10 months now. I've informed him I will not give up and wash them for him 😂

DH would literally never notice. He just doesn’t see untidiness or clutter.

However, I wouldn’t have the first clue which day our bins go out/which one/what the garden waste situation is. Just doesn’t appear on my radar.

Following this situation with interest.

Men are such vile creatures.

No they are not! Take your negativity someplace else... people who call other people 'vile' should look at themselves.

Oh DH is all over the refuse collection situation... he's also the recycler in the house and I have t done laundry in 11 years...

But get him to carry a packet of loo roll upstairs and he's flummoxed

@sentfrmmyiphone Can I play?

There's been a small screwdriver on the floor underneath the sink in our bathroom for about a week now...

Thanks for the pic @sentfrmmyiphone 😊
I have my fingers crossed you have the strength to not let it bother you for 6 years plus. If your DH doesn't move in the meantime.
The paper became a running joke in the family, when we talked to her on the phone we'd ask how 'Uncle Don't Touch' was.

Just spotted a similar thread to this one on Dadsnet

”I do all the laundry, all the recycling, put the bins out and ‘er indoors can’t even be bothered to chuck away a nappy sack. Well I’m not doing it, I tell ya. I don’t care if it’s sat there for the next 6 years…”

DH brought a tin of paint in from the shed to paint over a bit of wall that he had damaged. It sat on the floor in our study for 8 months before he finally took it back to the shed, (without doing the 10 minutes worth of painting). I so wished that one of the grand babies would get the lid off some days.

No you should have started to decorate it.

Imagine the emotions from Disney’s Inside Out. Sadness, Embarrassment, Disgust, Anger, Anxiety…

How could you have missed this opportunity?

They really are not.

But you might be vile. Sure sounds like it.

DH told me he was going for a walk on Christmas Eve so I asked him to drop a card to one of the neighbours. I wrote the card and left it on the hall floor next to the front door.
He forgot it.
It's still there.

Harsh. 😬

OP that's hilarious 🤣

I would not consider a man not picking up after himself a "little quirk", having grown up with such a father and been hospitalised whilst primary-aged after tripping over something he left on the stairs, falling, and being impaled on a wood chisel he had left in a bag at the bottom of the stairs. Not tidying up isn't just an inconvenience, it's a risk to others.

Reader, my mum divorced him because she was sick of it.

I love the pettiness of long term relationships 😅😅

I've been with DH for 30 years and often engage in this sort of silent-warfare!

😅

It's what keeps us all going @lemmein 😆

There is no ‘inability’, unless they a physical or mental impairment. These men (and I have one) just don’t care enough about stuff, or the house, or how you would like things done.

It’s not their work, it’s yours. Because they have been socialised to believe that way. Which is reinforced every time you pick up the nappy bag!

It’s a personal thing, if you have one of these, as to whether their good qualities outweigh this crap. Or I suppose you could set about ‘training’ them, like a puppy. Tiresome and demeaning all round.

Hopefully the next generation of men will be better.

It's because deep down they think these things are our job and they are too important for them. DH has selective recall, and I'm convinced that he makes a subconscious or maybe deliberate decision to just not retain information he thinks is my domain.

He would pick DD up from brownies every week. Every week without fail, "what time does she need picking up Grungey?" "6pm DH" (same as the last fucking 42 weeks) 🤬🤬Yet when it came to him booking to play tennis or racketball miraculously he would not need reminding.

Sorry, is he using a computer that has not had its software updated since before spellcheck was invented?

Next time he asks you how to spell something just say “use spellcheck” and repeat ad nauseam.

😂😂😂. i would be impressed if he could find his way to dadsnet or whatever it is