Prior to meeting my children I was dating a man for around a year. He has been around my children now for about 4 months. Everything was going really well. My son actively asks to see him and enjoys his company.
My daughter has been harder however, she is 12 and on the spectrum. From the moment she knew about him she has hated him. Refused to even see a picture of him...her main reason for hating him was that he is 20 years older than me. For the record I'm 31.
She finally asked to meet him around 4 months ago and instantly clicked with him. Since then she has frequently come and sat and watched films with us, played games with us, and even came to a bbq with our friends and other things. She seemed to really like him. She even asked me if we would ever get married or have a baby and that baisicly if we did she would support it.
Suddenly today she's come to me saying, he's a nice man, he treats me well, she doesn't dislike him at all. She can see we love each other very much, but she's very uncomfortable about our age gap and has told me she wants me to break up with him.
I've tried to ask her exactly what the issue is and she just keeps saying it's creepy and wrong. I asked her if he seems creepy or makes her uncomfortable and she said no, it's just the age gap because "it isn't right"
I honestly don't know what to do. She's now sulking and being rude to me. I'm heartbroken as this man is so lovely and treats me wonderfully, I love him, and I am loved in return. If I have to end this relationship I honestly can't see myself bothering ever again.