If a man you’d been on a couple of dates with hadn’t complimented you or flirted with you at all, would you think that means he didn’t find you attractive?
I’m in this situation. First date was last week and second was yesterday. Got on really well with him both times, he is very easy to talk to.
He kissed me at the end of the first date and that went on for a good few minutes, it was “get a room” intensity.
And then on our second date yesterday he kissed me straight away and there was a lot of making out during the date itself. No groping, it didn’t go beyond first base but was still very passionate and intense.
In between the two dates we messaged a little bit but not much. He has always been warm and chatty but never flirtatious, has never complimented me and hasn’t responded to any overtures of that kind from me.
After we had been kissing for a long time yesterday I said to him that I’d been unsure as to whether he was attracted to me or not, because there was no flirtation in his messages even when I’d attempted to initiate some. And he said something along the lines of him not being someone who ever really flirts.
The way we left things was that he probably isn’t around next week in the evenings as he has his kids with him but he may be free at some point during the day. Both of our dates so far have been daytime meetings so that’s not an issue.
But again, I’m not sure if he’s interested. I did message him a couple of hours after our date yesterday to say I know he doesn’t do flirting but that I wanted to tell him how much I enjoyed kissing him and was looking forward to exploring more when we get the chance. He answered and said “the kissing is pretty great 😁” and then said something about the unfortunate number of passers by that we had to interrupt things for.
We haven’t messaged since but he spoke yesterday as if we are definitely seeing each other again and it’s just a question of scheduling.
He is new to online dating and I was the first person he’d ever met that way. I haven’t asked if he’s also meeting other women but am assuming that he is. I am also going on dates with other men but am really attracted to this guy.
On our first date we met halfway between his town and mine. And yesterday he drove down to my town to meet me, which was his own suggestion.
So he’s shown up for both dates, hasn’t messed me around in any way, has come down to my town to see me, has always responded to messages promptly and has physically shown me that he feels strong chemistry towards me.
But he’s not saying that he’s into me. My comment to him yesterday about looking forward to exploring more was an invitation for him to say he was looking forward to that too, looking forward to seeing me again, that kind of thing. And he didn’t 😐
I’m not sure what to think.