Ive been with a man 4 years now. Always found i cant talk to him as hes just not interested.
If i talk about friends or family he tells me hes not interested.
If i talk about the people i look after at work or how my days been (some days are emotional in my line of work) he tells me it bores him.
In the last few days i can see him texting when hes on his phone but hes making out hes struggling to google a number or something. Hes been on whatsapp late at night.
I dont like the company he keeps. He smokes weed and he has shady characters around him im just not comfortable with. He hides this from me to a large extent but he will tell me what these people are doing and will often tell me theyve been robbing and off their heads. He tells me he talks to nobody and has no numbers in his phone. Yet he knows so manty things.
I dont think hes 100% cheating. I think hes letting a male stay over whos recently out of jail. But hes hiding this from me.
Last night he text at 1am saying hed had a horrible dream and didnt want to sleep. He said he went to bed at daylight. I saw hed been using my netflix at 2am so i asked if he laid on the sofa. He said no i stayed in bed. So i think his mates been there last night.
He came up today and hes been on his phone and its quite blatant hes messaging someone. Hes been using excuses to go on his phone. I feel down in the dumps because i feel stuff is hidden from me. Is it a woman or a shady thing.
Anyway i started saying about work are putting us all in set rotas next week based on ability. He then said you need another job as your never happy.. i wasnt unhappy im happy enough to be put where i do best. Anyway last week i told him how overwhelmed i felt as the boss was putting alot onto me training wise and contacting me on days off. He then made a point of saying do i want to talk about work 24/7 and he doesnt understand why i tell him stuff about work. He said hes not interested in the people i look after or the families i meet.
I said you dont find me stimulating as other people quite happily engage in a conversation with me. He said because they are happy to tall about cleaning all day (my best mate is a self employed cleaner)
I know i enjoy talking about a whole range lf things. Hes just not interested.
He told me to find someone else if i felt that way and hes just walked out. I said fine. He then twisted it and said asif you just said you wanna find someone else and said i say i want a relationship but then i just tear him to shreds.
I talk about work for 5 minutes if theres something i want to mention. Is it wrong of me to think i should be able to engage with him and feel he cares