Why is this so common now

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Why are so many people in relationships on dating apps or adding, liking and messaging other women or men.
Why are so many people loosing amazing people to look elsewear? Why are people npt appreciating what they have now.
I understand phones have given people access to tons of people. But have phones butchered relationships?

The amount of people i know who cant trust their partners and are monitoring them. Its horrible

The latest espiode on diary of a ceo is interesting with Louise Perry. They touch on some of these issues. It's becoming a real issue with birth rates plummeting. Seeing more and more men not motivated by settling down/monogamous relationships or family life but purely by casual sex and screens/pornography. It's very sad. Louise Perry says that casual sex more often than not harms women and also men just in different ways.

Sweetshop mentality caused by online dating.

Before all of this, anyone (man or a woman) looking for a relationship had to meet them in real life. This requires effort and being physically present. There is a limit to how many new people you can meet realistically so people were more engaged in what was in front of them.

Online dating there are millions and millions of people - more than you could ever meet in real life and you can just scroll on by - it creates a mentality of something better is round the corner.

To put it another way, its a never ending escaltor -like they use to say

imagine life is like you are an up escalator next to a down escalator. On the down escalator are only men (men you meet in life) and you have to pick one to marry before you get to the top (time runs out). If you pick too early, you run the risk of missing something better further along the escalator. If you pick too late, you run the risk of no one you even vaguely like as the good ones have passed. That was normal life pre- online dating.

Now it's more like one never ending escalator for men with no incentive to pick at all as there really could be something better coming down the escalator shortly because it is a really REALLY long escalator with millions more people than you could ever meet in real life.

Sweetshop mentality caused by online dating.

I think this is a slightly simplified version of looking at things, I think there are other factors at play

there is an increasing number of financially independent women who are career focused and pushing back marriage/ children & a decreasing number of men who see marriage & children as something that doesn’t even matter to them , not even on their radar

On a global scale, plummeting births in the developed world is not really a problem

but certainly agree that for lots of men setting down/ monogamy is not something that offers anything- not sure it’s sad as such- just evolving society

Excellent analogy

Bit social media doesn’t MAKE people unfaithful. People who are prone to be unfaithful will find ways anyway. On the bright side, social media just expedites and facilitates finding out who the slimy cheats are. The ones who are obsessed with their SM feeds are best avoided anyway for being superficial idiots 🙂😇

There's always been men and women who had affairs, in the past often through work, especially in mixed environments and stressful jobs such as medicine and the police.

The internet has opened up previously unavailable opportunities to cheat , I remember when Friends Reunited came along - the amount of affairs and upsets that caused,no apps then , and now sexualised behaviour by both sexes is everywhere, and comes with a price.

The internet

Not all women are motivated by family life nd settling down either.

This may be true. I was never tempted even the slightest to cheat online.
And to be honest I find it really boring chatting online. Prefer face to face

I’m another one who believes these people would be like it anyway, SM just makes it easier for them.

XH took the opportunity to cheat online because it was there being piped into our home and his hand.

He was too much of a lazy git to have put the effort into finding someone IRL to cheat with.