Why is this so common now

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Why are so many people in relationships on dating apps or adding, liking and messaging other women or men.
Why are so many people loosing amazing people to look elsewear? Why are people npt appreciating what they have now.
I understand phones have given people access to tons of people. But have phones butchered relationships?

The amount of people i know who cant trust their partners and are monitoring them. Its horrible

I presume they are the ones who never matured. My dad and uncles are all married and devoted to their family. They are early 60s. I think its the 70s era that forgot how to grow up (not all lol)

Did anyone watch the Ashley Madison documentary on Netflix? Real eye opener! I was really shocked by how common affairs are and how blasé some people are about them.

Ill have a watch

Yes, there is. There is a ‘type’ who will cheat, given the chance/temptation, and a ‘type’ who won’t. I have no idea what the actual percentages are for each, but I suspect most people would rather know which ‘type’ their partner is. 🤷‍♀️

I really don’t think there is ‘a type’.

I did before I started online dating but my experience since has jaded me and I now think there are far more who would cheat given the opportunity and a good chance of getting away with it.

Admittedly there may be a lot who ‘only’ go as far as downloading the apps, chatting and sexting but it’s still cheating.

I doubt I’ll ever be in a relationship again, but if it happens I will not be under any illusions that it couldn’t happen.

And women’s pocket, 50% increase in women signing up to cheating sites.

www.standard.co.uk/lifestyle/why-women-having-more-affairs-cheating-marriage-b1073860.html

It's so grim, it really disheartens me

It’s so depressing isn’t it.

Just leave, he’s got ‘the dream’, a younger good looking woman who loves him and he’s still not happy.

Well me and my DH definitely don't do this!

More like unsociable media.

It’s a method of selling sexual content to males, and they lap it up.

This is why mental health is soaring too. Its so disheartening. I really feel sad now when i see people get married etc. I wish someone loved me enough.

Used to be just page 3 and all the women complained!!!! Look at where we are now🙄

Yeah but they couldnt pull page 3 girls. But look at all the filters and pouting now. Men think all their birthdays came at once!

Yes, this. He didnt know how lucky he was! I think those dating apps are like p*rn to some men. They cant stop looking at them and fantasizing.

@LuckyPeonies But anyone who gives into temptation whilst in a committed relationship is likely to do so regardless.
I disagree. I agree with the poster who said tech has enabled people who would otherwise not be tempted or would not act on their thoughts.

Much like MN which enables people to say horrible things that they would never say irl

I think people generally aren’t very nice anymore, and people in relationships on dating apps is part of that.
Relationships are slowly fading out and the younger ones dating multiple people, birth rates dropping. I don’t think robots will turn bad and wipe out humanity, I think people will do it to themselves.

By staying with him I do feel like you’ve just asked and answered your own question.

Have birth rates dropped then?

Couldnt agree more OP. This is how I feel. I thank my lucky stars I didnt grow up with this tech and it entered my life as an adult.

I feel as a women the internet and phones have just given men (in my experience) every opportunity in the world to see, perve, lust, etc over women. I was researching some at home work out moves and this 'Sports Girl' FB page popped up - it is literally someone collecting images of young sports women.... and photographing their private areas - which are covered - but its so suggestive and gross. Poor tennis players, synchronised swimmers, gymnasts. I reported it and FB said that there was no nudity. Technically they are right but this is so gross and disgusting and the comments were vile. I genuinely hate this for the future generations it made me feel sick. and this is one tiny small example and there will be 1000000s of this out there. argh it makes me so mad.

Affairs have been happening long before phones and dating apps.
People have choices and do not have to settle or tolerate.
A app is so easy to install then move on for ego or better arrangements for some people.

Quick reward mechanism. Better 20 mini bust of hey handsome! Than to put some effort in build a relationship.
The brain works with electric impulses and those mini bust are very rewarding.
Unrealistic expectations. People like to feel they are a prize to win. Etc etc.

If the trust has gone thrn so has the relationship. Time to move on.

This.Previouly you would only have met people in real life which reduced the pool dramatically. And it has normalised ‘dating’ among older people which was never a thing.
It is dispiriting to see mature women agonising over phone messages etc and men acting like they are in sweet shop.

It’s definitely a new form of cheating. Affairs and cheating always existed but now it’s much easier to find someone online and have sex.
There has also been a huge decrease in values and ethics. Don’t know. Are there any valuable people out there? No idea.

I think because their generation did not grow up with the tech maybe and now its like letting a child loose in a sweet shop! they cant control themselves and dont actually see the liking/commenting of photos as disrespectful