Would you meet up with an ex who said this...

[Nanya81]

I've been made aware through a mutual friend that my ex is considering getting in contact to ask if I'd like to meet for a coffee now that time has passed. We broke up 2.5 years ago after more than five years together, when he discarded me out of the blue, telling me he'd never been in love with me, ever, but knew I was in love with him, and some other cold words.

My heart skipped a beat when I heard this. I don't know what he wants, but I really still don't want any contact, even though I'm long over him now. I know people say you can become friends with an ex after time has passed, but I really don't want this. Am I being reasonable or not?

I wouldn’t ignore or he might try again, thinking you haven’t seen it!

Shut him and his ego down. Politely, so he can’t create the ‘what a bitch’ narrative.

“Hi X, I’m well thanks, hope you are too. I have moved on and would prefer not to keep in touch. All the best, Nanya.”

Short, sweet and most importantly, unambiguous.

The reaching out bit makes it sound like he's doing you a favour. I'd completely ignore him

He was putting out feelers through the mutual friend so make clear to the mutual friend that you want nothing to do with the ex

I’d reply very briefly and make it clear any more contact will not be welcome.

Just ignore. You don't want to be friends and done owe him anything.

“no thanks, during this time apart I realised just how awful you were, and I barely have enough time to meet my actual friends, so won’t be wasting it on you”.

He is just after an ego boost.

Ignore!! And block!

He wants to reign you back in hoping you are still in love with him.

Btw seeing the very physical impact he has on you, please do not consider in any shape or form to be in contact with him.

He clearly hurt you a lot.
Dont give in an inch and the slightest chance of hurting you again.

Ignore, delete, block.
For your own sake.

I’d ghost the bastard.
He deserves nothing from you.

Treat yourself this weekend.

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Me too -gotta find a way to engineer that into conversation today😂😂

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Don't even waste your time on him.

He didn't care about you or your feelings when you was together. Don't even meet him.

Ignore!

Definitely just ignore it. what benefit do you get from responding?

You send a reply saying hi, you're well but would prefer not to reach out - he thinks you're still hurting and can't bear to be around him

You send a reply telling him he's a dickhead - he think syou're still hurting and can't bear to be around him.

Just ignore it. Let him do the wondering. He might try again in due course. Ignore again.

He sounds like a married man who's become bored of his wife again.

No. People break up because relationships are broken.

I'd never want to speak to him again after being so cruel

Agree with everyone. I'd imagine if you meet he will do everything possible to try and get you into bed.

The fact that your heart skips makes me worried. Block and ignore.

Ignore and block. Be satisfied that you have the upper hand in the end and don’t open an old wound.

'No thanks' is enough. Or if you want to say more, go with 'that doesn't work for me', or 'I'm too busy living life', or similar.

Who cares if he thinks you're still hurting or whatever. If he wants to waste his time and mental energy fantasizing about how much you miss him, that's his problem. He's no more than an irritating little flea in your memory bank, so he can think whatever he wants of you.

His 'I was never in love with you' sounds like the cheaters 'script'. I guess he's now realised you were the best he was ever going to get, but whilst you're great, he still is (and always will be) a selfish loser, so all he'd do is hurt you again. You had a very lucky escape!!

Fuck no! He’s at a loose end and thinks you’re a guaranteed booty call. He has such a high opinion of himself that you will be so grateful to hear from him again you will fall (naked) at his feet, begging him to take you! (Then he can bin you again when something else catches his eye.)

Instead of “No thanks”, I think “Ew, no!”

I would just ignore him to be honest

No, do not meet up with him.
I firmly believe that you should never go back, its not healthy as things end &/or you move on for multiple reasons.

There is nothing for you to gain being in contact with him again.
I'd just say I wish him well with his life but that I'm not interested in seeing him again. I have plenty of friends and interests to occupy my personal time and can't see that he would add anything positive to my life.

He can get fucked. Treat yourself to self esteem therapy.