Are small boobs to men what a small penis is to a woman?

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NC for this one.

My breasts have never been big but they shrunk when I got divorced. Been with my dp for 3 years, sex life very regular but he never touches my breasts and it feels really weird …like they are too small to be noticed. Which is a shame as it’s a very erogenous place for me :(

I do feel a bit down about this as his ex W has massive ones ( with a breast reduction). I kind of feel he wouldn’t have ignored hers though there is no love lost between them so I’m
not jealous of the present but the past I suppose.

I know I need to sit down with him but I just feel crap right now. I wanted to speak to other women who are small and see if they are getting attention. Never a problem for me in the past ..

Thanks all for you comments..: I take them on board. When ever I have a chat to him about something that’s bothering me he always takes it onboard including relating to sex and tries to make changes . I am not sure why I haven’t brought it up .. maybe embarrassment that I don’t think they are worthy of attention? I actually am ok with them, a smaller 32b and they are pert. It’s just his lack of interest in them :(
As a pp said above, the sex is very regular ( this morning confirmed it ) as we did have sex a few times before work today! However I didn’t guide him to my boobs - annoyed with myself but processing the opinions and advice given here. Sorry if the last bit was tmi 😅

Wow, what a sexist statement. Imagine if that one was reversed!

In my experience men don’t generally (but always exceptions) go for very small or very large boobs. They tend to go for medium, round and perky. But like everyone v few people are with somebody who ticks every optimal feature box, so it doesn’t matter that much.

@Bobbotgegrinch appreciate the detail given! It helps and yes I need to communicate it better. I sometimes really get caught up in my head and thoughts. Everything else is good in the relationship, but always room to make things better.

There is a reason his busty ex wife is an ex, not that her boobs kept him in the end. You need to relax about it and tell him where you like to be touched and problem solved.

Nothing sexist about stating the truth or do you prefer not to talk about vaginas?!

Ask him to touch them! Do you not talk about what you’d like. My husband is much more into my legs and I’m but I sometimes grab his hand and he gets the message.

In my experience, men arent that fussy.

‘Women are just grateful to get anybody in bed with them’ how does that read?

They are completely different things OP. One is obvious on sight and so allows those who don't find it attractive to opt out from the get go. The other comes as something of a surprise, and whether those who don't find it attractive or not opt out, will be largely dependent on the other qualities the person brings to the table.
If your partner doesn't like small breasts he probably wouldnt be your partner. This is not so for men with small penises who may just be very nice and/or have kind partners.

You make a valid point here … I know a penis is a different scenario .. I just wanted as many opinions as possible re boobs!
My dp never comments on other women’s breasts or bums tbh though he squeezes mine a lot. I think like others have suggested I just tell him what want him to do and also guide him in bed . I just need to have a bit of body confidence. It’s crazy as I am in good shape but not happy in myself

Mine are on the large side, and this has always been very much appreciated by the men I've been with.

BUT this is a self-selecting sample of men. If they preferred small breasts, they wouldn't have been with me, would they?

It's not like breast size comes as much of a surprise. Men pretty much know what they're getting, just from seeing you fully dressed. It's highly unlikely that someone has chosen you as a partner unless they find you attractive.

My guess is that some men prefer large, some prefer small, some have other criteria or don't have a preference. I think it's safe to assume that your partner likes your body.

I have not been blessed in the large boob department, which has never seemed to bother partners. However, penis size is a whole different story. That body part plays a very important role in the act! 😂

So if someone you were interested in had a penis size of half an inch, you wouldn’t care?

So if someone you were interested in had a penis size of half an inch, you wouldn’t care?

What?😂

“…as we did have sex a few times before work today!”

Blimey, I don’t think you need to worry that he doesn’t fancy you 😂

It sounds to me like he’s just not a breast man so he doesn’t pay them attention because it doesn’t particularly do anything for him. But if you like them being touched, you need to tell him because he can’t read your mind. It would be nice if he didn’t need to be asked but as long as he takes notice when you do tell him, that’s all that matters.

I’m sure there has to be a man on this earth with a penis size that small. Ingens has said that they don’t care about penis size so I want to know if they REALLY don’t care

< awaits response from Ingens >

for me its personality of the person rather than her assets so to speak

Do you have small boobs? I'm assuming you do because it would be freaking weird to tell a woman with big boobs that they preferred small ones.

Assuming you have small boobs, then of course men with you are going to like small boobs. Because they like you. The men who preferred big boobs world a) not have fancied you or b) not have told you that they actually prefer big boobs because how rude would that be!!

I think that's a rather poor analogy to make! A small penis and a small breast have no real functional correlation at all. Breasts like penises will vary in size from person to person. However a small penis will functionally fall short as a woman becomes more excited and lubricated! It cannot provide the same amount of friction and stimulation of a larger penis. That's just a mechanical fact whether we men or women like it! The aesthetic effect of a large breast or a large penis may also make a difference from person to person depending on their personal taste. You don't see many male strippers with small penises and the little guy always gets voted off first on 'Naked Attraction.

I prefer small boobs. I'd choose smaller than average over larger than average. That said, I like a slim/athletic physique with everything in proportion, so large boobs would look out of place.

No

Why don't you talk to him?

Hmmm dubious

Thanks I will talk to him …with anything I speak to him about he always tries to put things right. I think it’s more of a “me” thing than a “him” thing . I instantly think because he doesn’t touch them that he’s repulsed by them! I know as I type this, my last statement sounds mad 🥲