Are small boobs to men what a small penis is to a woman?

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My breasts have never been big but they shrunk when I got divorced. Been with my dp for 3 years, sex life very regular but he never touches my breasts and it feels really weird …like they are too small to be noticed. Which is a shame as it’s a very erogenous place for me :(

I do feel a bit down about this as his ex W has massive ones ( with a breast reduction). I kind of feel he wouldn’t have ignored hers though there is no love lost between them so I’m
not jealous of the present but the past I suppose.

I know I need to sit down with him but I just feel crap right now. I wanted to speak to other women who are small and see if they are getting attention. Never a problem for me in the past ..

No. I am big but my DP is more interested in bum and vagina. I don't think men really care, most are just greatful someone is getting naked with them.

No

Plenty of men prefer small boobs. Even more just like boobs whatever size they are

In my (not insignificant) experience of men, I’d say most blokes prefer a smaller bust.

Lots of men prefer smaller boobs, so I don’t think it’s a general thing. And some men aren’t into boobs at all.
Does he think you’re self conscious about them or something? Definitely worth a conversation.

First of all.. what are small penises to women?! You are assuming alot there. I and plenty of women I know do not give one shit about the size of a Penistone it's what's actually done during sex.

Secondly not all men fetishise books to the point they have a certain type of book they are looking for. In actual fact I find most men start liking a woman and then they like her particular boobs because they like her basically..

I used to be an A cup till my second child and I can tell you my books were always well liked.

If a guy has commented on your boobs as not being to his taste you need to bin him straight.away as not only is he shallow but he's likely to be shit in bed if he has such rigid ideas of what he needs to feel aroused.

Haha autocorrect... obvious Penistone is meant to be penis abd books is meant to be boobs

No, because a dick has a sexual function in a way that boobs do not.

(They may be a sexual signal but they do not have a sexual function.
Apart from boob jobs I suppose but those are a side event compared to sexual intercourse).

I've found men vary hugely re boobs. Some men are not interested in me due to boob size (small), some men don't mind, some men expressed that mine are perfect/the right size.

I think more men are happy with boobs of any size than we think.

On your post in particular; you're like many women in wanting attention/stimulation there, he's not doing something that would be fairly normal & that's not unreasonable to expect (and that's not off putting in the way some people find eg oral sex) .....so that's pretty shit.

I'd call that a bit if shit sex life tbh.

First of all.. what are small penises to women?! You are assuming alot there. I and plenty of women I know do not give one shit about the size of a Penis it's what's actually done during sex.

That's a good point.

I've been with a few men with small dicks and they had zero problem gaining or keeping partners.
So a lot of women clearly are not out off by them.

I wanted to speak to other women who are small and see if they are getting attention.

Pretty much any partner I had, gave them attention.

As i said, it sounds crap

Your title and opening post are on two different things.

Do men like small boobs- yes. There are many men who don't mind, or prefer smaller boobs. Some exclusively like small boobs.

The issue of your DP is separate. It's hurtful that he just ignores a part of your body. I kind of went through similar, but i consider it resolved now. Porn and unrealistic expectations were the issue with DH.

I'm going to be fairly crass here.

I'm part of a poly triad. I have small breasts, the other woman has large breasts. OH likes that mine fit in his hands and that he can stick his face between hers.
But he'd much rather a nice round bum.

If you want your partner to touch your breasts tell him!

Many men aren't interested in boobs at all no matter what size they are. And some prefer smaller ones. And some love all of them.

As for the small penis thing, obviously that can be an issue for some if they can't feel much from intercourse and so they feel like they're missing out on a huge part of sex, but unless a man is completely obsessed with big boobs and derives a lot of his sexual enjoyment from playing with bigger boobs then the lack of them is unlikely to have much of an impact on his enjoyment of sex.

Have you ever told him you'd like him to play with them? because it sounds like you're disappointed rather than him.

I'm big boobed (34FF). Have always wanted smaller, pert boobs. Some men do seem to like a bigger handful, but I know from less busty friends that they are equally admired. In your shoes I would try getting a deliberately sexy bra to enhance and draw attention to your bust.

Not equivalent to small penis. There's no lingerie which will enhance a small penis (I may be wrong!)

My boobs have been big and small as my weight has fluctuated and my husband has loved them at every size they've been. He's just delighted to have boobs in his presence. Maybe your guy just isn't a boob guy? Some men aren't. You could always just ask him to touch them more if you'd like him to.

I don't think the boobs are the right partner to small penis.

Wouldn't it be is a small penis to women what a loose vagina is to men?

At the end of the day its the sensations required during sex that are the main factors.

My DH prefers my bum to my boobs, he loves watching me walk upstairs etc - it's not because he doesn't love my boobs but that his preferences are other parts of my body.

How did you resolve it can I ask? Yes I agree , it is hurtful he ignores my breasts, that’s exactly my point which I don’t think I’ve got across.
My bum gets a lot of attention, I think that’s one of the things that he subtly mentioned he loved on our first date.
I try in bed to give him Mille stimulation as men are sensitive there but it is never returned :(

The “penises” to women was a bit of an attention grabber from me tbh as I just wanted a good round of opinions and feedback tbh. Because it’s something of course that I haven’t discussed with friends ect as too personal.
@RogueFemale I have a lot of sexy lingerie that enhances my bum and bust… he does just go for the bum.
There are aspects of our sex life I really do enjoy … but seems there is room for improvement. I suppose I can only ask him next time.

“ nipple” not Millie, bloody auto correct! 😅

I'm only a B but my DH can't keep his hands off. I'm actually not a huge fan of them being touched (possibly more so at the minute as I'm still breastfeeding a toddler!)

@Allthegoodnamesaregone1 I don't think a small penis is equivalent to a loose vagina. As most women don't orgasm through penetration alone. For me sex has always been quite sore, so I'd welcome a smaller one😁

Best sex I’ve ever had was with a guy with a small penis. In fact, he was the only guy I’ve ever enjoyed piv sex with. He just REALLY knew how to use his cock.

I’ve got small breasts and it hasn’t stopped me attracting men. And unlike penises, they can see what they are getting before they ‘buy’!

Lot of assumptions in your post OP. I have small breasts and never had complaints. I am small, larger breasts would be disproportionate. I've also had fantastic sex with a short man with a small penis. He's just really really good at sex.

I think you need to learn to speak up. If you don't tell him you like them being touched maybe he is not very good at thinking and won't.

From what I hear men just like boobs. If they didn't know they were man boobs in a cropped pic they'd probably wank over them. I don't think size is much of an issue, more of a preference for some.

Small penis doesn't mean much either - sometimes better because they try harder. Sadly usually angry because they have a chip on the shoulder about it from other men, but not the same as women with small boobs, no.

Not all men like their nipples being touched (just like women like different things). Perhaps, for him, he doesn't get much arousal from you touching his nipples, so doesn't think to do the same to you?

Have you asked him? Or even just directed his hand in the heat of the moment?