Are small boobs to men what a small penis is to a woman?

[DoesthislookgoodOnMe]

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My breasts have never been big but they shrunk when I got divorced. Been with my dp for 3 years, sex life very regular but he never touches my breasts and it feels really weird …like they are too small to be noticed. Which is a shame as it’s a very erogenous place for me :(

I do feel a bit down about this as his ex W has massive ones ( with a breast reduction). I kind of feel he wouldn’t have ignored hers though there is no love lost between them so I’m
not jealous of the present but the past I suppose.

I know I need to sit down with him but I just feel crap right now. I wanted to speak to other women who are small and see if they are getting attention. Never a problem for me in the past ..

If his ex had a reduction, chances are they were a no go area for a while. Perhaps avoiding them is habit?

Perhaps his ex was self conscious about hers and didn't want them touched and he's not sure what your feelings are?

Reduction after divorce. She’s quite tall and big so she’s had quite a few sergaries since their divorce. I’m the opposite, petite and slender hence never had massive boobs.

I don't think they're comparable, no. As another PP mentioned, the penis has a sexual function that boobs do not. I think size does matter, as it affects how sex feels for the woman, although some women prefer small, some prefer big. Conversely, boobs are more so just aesthetic.

I'm a B cup so quite small, and it's never been a problem with any of my exes. One ex of mine said he prefers smaller boobs because they're usually "perkier".

Of course there are some men out there who specifically have a preference for big boobs, but I'd say the vast majority of men don't really have a size preference.

You definitely need to talk to your DP. If you're having regular sex I'd hazard a guess that he is sexually attracted to you and doesn't really care about your boob size!

Most guys ime prefer a bum over boobs.

Thank you for that! I know Penistone very well and that made me laugh so much 🤣!

My sex life got a lot better when I started to communicate very specifically about what feels nice and what I wanted. I notice men never seem to have this problem. If you've been going out for 3 years you can tell him what to do and he will almost certainly enjoy the fact that you are enjoying it.

No, they're in no way similar. A small penis will actually affect the amount of pleasure both men and women get from penetration (as will an overly large penis), whereas breast size doesn't make a difference.

For most men, size isn't a factor with boobs, we like them all equally. Some men aren't that fussed at all, and yes, some men prefer big over small, or small over big, but for most of us, our partners breasts are the best breasts because they're the ones we're allowed to touch.

However, I do think breasts can be a bit of a mystery to men. Everyone is slightly different in what gives them pleasure. Its fairly easy to work out what works down below, the signs that your partner is enjoying themselves tend to be fairly obvious both audibly and visibly. With breasts, less so.

My DP for instance will give no reaction when I play with her boobs, I'm more likely to get a sigh out of her if I stroke her back or almost any other part of her body. I still play with them a lot, but I always thought it was more for my own benefit than hers! What I didn't do is use my mouth on them (I'm starting to get a bit TMI here, I know. Bear with me) It doesn't do much for me, and the few times I tried it it didn't seem to have much effect for her, so what's the point?

5 whole years into our relationship, she asked why I never went there. Turns out she loves that, and was upset that I never did it. Who knew! What I'm saying is communication is key, if your partner isn't doing something you want them to do, or vice versa, talk to them about it, let them know you enjoy it.

I'll make one other point. I went out with a girl for a while with really tiny breasts. Didn't bother me, if it had I wouldn't have gone out with her in the first place. She on the other hand was deeply insecure about it, and as a result wouldn't let me touch them. Absolutely fine, but it did mean that when I went out with another girl with equally small boobs, I was slightly wary about going there. Maybe you husband has had the same experience and has just assumed you'd not be keen either. Again, talk to him about it.

@MartyFunkhouser

in my not insignificant experience, men (with half a brain) will tell you that what you have is what they prefer.

Ime most men prefer firm boobs and it doesn’t matter if they’re big or small.

@Bobbotgegrinch

great post.

The vast majority of women prefer men with big dicks. The vast majority of men prefer women with big tits. Why do people tie themselves in knots trying to argue against this?!

You need to tell him where to touch you and then give positive reinforcement when he does with sounds/praise etc.

I think it's odd you've put up with this for 3 years, I wouldn't have lasted 3 days!

Simple answer - no. Long answer - hell, no.

I’m qualified to answer as a penis owner.

Thank you for cheering me up! I had been feeling a bit low and the idea of book-attracted men (perhaps hanging around in libraries and branches of Waterstones?) did make me laugh.

No. Many men prefer smaller boobs.

There's no universal type or pattern that appeals to all men.

I'm a bloke BTW.

I prefer small

I don’t know actually, I’m pretty flat chested, 34a, as opposed to just ‘small’, what are you classing as small boobs?

Anyway, my husband enjoys my entire body because it’s mine. I doubt he’d hate it if I had bigger or ‘big’ boobs though.

I’ve been pregnant with & breastfed 2 children and they’ve never changed size, despite what all the midwives, books and websites say 😂

The size of your boobs is probably irrelevant to him. Some men go for boobs, some bums. He likes bums. However, you should address why you feel you can't guide him to do what you like during sex ie. play with your top half. Simply tell him what you like to get more of it. If he still ignores what you say, then he's a crap lover who is just focused on getting his own rocks off, which is his sad problem.

well as a penis owner I have never had a particular preference. I appreciate the visual turn on of a bigger pair of boobs without a need for it in my life, just like I suspect a larger penis has a greater visual turn on for the majority of women?! My wife is very small and we had a fun time with the increased size during pregnancies, and I have absolutely no doubt if the same could have happened to me she would have taken the opportunity 😆

Small boobs look better in clothes and tend to be more pert as gravity has less effect on them. If I were a man, I'd go for small boobs

You're a guy who likes big boobs.

I don't think every man needs big boobs for a visual turn on. If you like small boobs, than that is sexy without needing to wish they were different.

his ex W has massive ones ( with a breast reduction). I kind of feel he wouldn’t have ignored hers

A friend of mine lost a lot of sensation in her breasts after a reduction and didn’t like them being touched. It’s possible she was similar and he is used to avoiding them as a result. Have you spoken to him about it?

You cant compare an actual sex organ with something that is for sex appeal (secondary to its primary purpose of life giving).

A more direct comparison would be small penis/large vagine.

I like big and small. I didn't say small weren't a visual turn-on and I didn't say I wished they were any different. I love my wife's body, just merely answering the question in hand from a personal point of view