How often do you have sex?

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9 year relationship, married for 3, 1 child aged 1.

How often would you say is a 'normal' amount of sex in these circumstances?

@ForestOfDean open marriage. I'm between men atm but seeing someone new at the weekend. Bit limited due to circumstances and children.

You really can’t say. Everyone is different. For years we were twice a month on average. Both busy, two young children. We are now at 5x a week. Married 15 years, children at junior school age.

@Theedgeoftheabyss

I'm guessing you don't have the right dp

That said we do have little blue pills in case but we aren't that young

Used to be daily up until we had a child. Child is now 2yo and though he sleeps well we’re tired. But we still aim for 2-3 times a week I’d say.

Define normal, different for everyone, daily might be the norm for some, monthly or less for others, what matters surely is how happy you both are with thefrequency of sex

2 times a week. Together 11yrs, married 7, two 6yr olds. There will be an ‘average’ but there is no ‘normal’. The more important question is how happy you are with it.

Together for 12 years. Toddler and older child. Probably about 3 times a week on average.

Used to be daily but all got a bit boring so once a week is enough for me.

Makes them feel "wanted" and I am not having to go through the motions too often.

1-2 a week, amongst my friends it’s more common to be 1-2 a month. This thread seems to have a lot of people shagging a lot more regularly than anyone I know in real life!

All these people having so much sex 🫣 I haven’t with DH in over a year, and wouldn’t care to never do it again 😬 I’m sure he will have affairs/leave me, but I don’t really care 😬

So why stay in the relationship. You obviously don't love him. You don't sound like you even like him

Multiple young children and financially reliant 🤷‍♀️

@Skintdancemum is there any chance of you working towards financial independence, is there any supportive services accessible to you?

Life is short you get one of them, even if realistically you have x number of years due to young children. Having that light at the end of the tunnel will help.

I hope things improve for you, it must be really difficult to feel trapped.

OP when I was in your position, once a fortnight on a Friday night. When that fizzled out, it showed a sign of a deterioration in our marriage for other reasons.

Now in a relatively new relationship (18 months), we see each other usually every other weekend (without DC) and it’s 2-4 times on those weekends. That’s actually reduced from when we first got together.

For those asking who can be bothered…depends how good the sex is! When I was with XH, meh. Once a fortnight was fine by me. Now I can’t get enough 😁

Sex is always more exciting in new relationships though. 18 months is a new relationship sex wise.

I still enjoy sex with my dh of 32 years but it's not often 'cooooorrr get your pants off' from my side. It's more loving and I love a good orgasm. But there are still times I do feel really really horny and it's more like early relationship sex.

Yes, as I said, relatively new and we don’t live together. Long distance so it’s still a case of being happy to see each other after almost 2 weeks apart. I imagine if/when we live together, it may calm down a bit. But it’s a world of difference from my marriage.

We have sex 3-5 times a week been together 8 years I still look at him and think ooof fit we both love sex it's also about being close and connected i would definitely jump him more if I could 😂

Never. Ive never been intersted in it and now post menopausal I intend never to do it again and couldnt be happier. Im divorced.