Confused by partner behaviour

[Confusedbutthatsnormalformetbh]

I’ve been with my partner two years. He is nice and kind. I’m very emotional he’s very funny outgoing but quite low on emotion. Twice he has upset me and twice I’ve pretty much over reacted emotionally by being upset and a little angry (nothing too much but I’m a bit overboard at times) these two times he has given me silent treatment for around three weeks. I feel slightly worried now to really p**s him off. He’s so nice tho and we laugh loads. I just feel sort of anxiety over getting too angry ever. So this weekend he sprung on me that he was invited to his cousins wedding. We very rarely go out together I was so excited then he said that I’d not been invited as she didn’t really know he had a partner. I was really upset I have childhood trauma from my parents leaving me out of things. I just feel quite upset. Off he went to the wedding and I feel quite numb toward him now. Not sure what to do.

Burst into tears say f you slam things around slightly like slam a door not too much

He goes out with friends he takes me out to eat at nandos etc I love to go out dancing more

Trust me on this- you HAVE to be able to talk to him when things upset you. If you don’t- in time, you will feel incredibly resentful that you’re constantly keeping quiet to make him happy. You’ll spend years doing this until one day you’ll be upset about something and you’ll tell him and he’ll explode in anger at you. You’ll be so angry at his reaction and years of pent up resentment will come out. He’ll either give you the silent treatment for ages or he’ll dump you just like that 🫰. It’s not a healthy dynamic and it’s cruel of him to do this. The silent treatment is abusive and it’s agony to be on the receiving end of. ❤️‍🩹

Put the phone down. I’m sick of us not going out having fun and I hate anyone not being invited to stuff

This is not okay. YOU need to work on this- saying f you and slamming doors etc is really aggressive and completely unproductive.

That’s what I’m scared of

@Confusedbutthatsnormalformetbh you haven’t learnt to express your emotions in a healthy way and that’s something you need to work on for your own sake.
having said that, your partner sounds rubbish… why don’t you upgrade him to a better model? 😌 you deserve to be cherished and have a partner who is proud to show you around and keen to have quality time with you…

Yes I hear you. But that’s only once in two years I’ve slammed a door I’m not sure I’d leave someone for slamming a door. I’m not sure it’s scary to cry either ? Why would you leave someone for crying ?

Sorry OP he is not nice or kind if he can ignore you for 3 weeks. Thats called stonewalling and is an abusive tactic to train you to never express how you feel. He actually sounds horrible

You say you are "overboard' with being emotional and get triggered from being left out as your parents would do the same.

I'd say perhaps you need to talk to a counsellor about those things. Put yourself first for three weeks and tell him to fuck off

Staying with your current partner will do nothing for your self esteem and his communication skills are terrible… it’s not going to work! You need to be able to talk to your partner about things that bother you, and feel safe to do so. Silent treatment for 3 weeks??? No way!!!

Haha” a better model” brill x thank you

Silent treatment for 3 weeks is abusive behaviour. He's telling you he's not interested in your feelings, and you need to put up and shut up.

Yes, your reactions may need some work but it sounds like you have some past trauma. But also, you have an unsupportive partner who doesn't want to be a partner and support you.

I mean, why doesn't his family know he has a partner??? I'd feel offended at essentially being kept secret (assuming you've been together for months/years and not weeks)

Wtf? You slightly overreact twice in two years and he gives you the silent treatment for 3 weeks! his cousin doesn't even know about you and he's not understanding about the fact you feel excluded from his life?
He sounds really hurtful and immature, and at someone said this is abusive.

I don’t work but I have a couple nice friends

“ disgrace yourself” that’s so negative 😂 he knows full well I’d never ever kick off he’s known me two years im very gentle which is why I cry excessively instead

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