Strange behaviour of Male Co-Worker

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My married male co-worker has this bad habit of flirting in front of me - whether it's on his phone, or eyeing up my female (married coworker - who talks about her husband but doesn't wear a wedding ring). He talks very loudly in my workspace on his mobile as if to flirt/make plans on his phone and get attention from me. I have no designs on him, but find his attention seeking behaviour is a pain in the butt when I am trying to work. Sometimes he is nice, but other times he's bloody weird. I came back from pneumonia after a month, and all he said was 'there's bugs in this building' and walked off. He says that he's coming to events I am hosting, then cancels without saying anything about it afterwards. Other times, he's staring at me which is uncomfortable. He's invited me to a couple of socials but I declined. I get on fine with my single male coworkers. The female coworker is pretty but wears revealing clothes to work, doesn't wear wedding ring, talks about her husband, but also talks a lot about how everyone thinks how hot she looks. These two sometimes come into work together and are constantly on their phones at the same time. I do not need to see a lot to see a pattern. Whilst I'm working for a living, I wish the man in particular would be self-aware of his eyeing up people (which has included me). Any advice?

Just ignore him.

Another post about what goes on in work places where employees behave like adolescents. Why do people not behave like adults at work? No wonder everything in society is disintegrating : why can't people go to work and do what they are paid to do instead instead of all this type of nonsense?

Stop watching them so closely, whatever they do is none of your business, if you don't like his attention don't engage.

First post nailed it

This guy is deeply insecure and is trying to show off to get attention. What I find more offensive is that he never opens his department on time - strolls in nearly 2 hours late (our departments work closely together and our work is linked up). He was totally checking out my coworkers bum in front of me and she goes into his office to look for keys with a skirt the size of a belt and a leather jacket with sheer tights. It's a little bit 'in your face'.

Difficult when you work in a team of 8 on one floor. Also he keeps showing off in front of my face with his texting and calling, drawing attention to himself.

I used to work with someone similar and I managed him by drawing attention to his behaviour. If he'd do something stupid/inappropriate I'd say 'oh I expected more professional behaviour from you now that you're a manager'. It took a while but eventually he got the message especially because anyone of us could have done his job blindfolded.

Just ignore him, let his boss deal with him not doing his job properly and you get on with yours.

Trouble is I am a temp. Technically I am leaving the organisation in 3 months time. I just don't like him. I think he is fake, a cheat, and also one that hides/slacks off in his job. I believe that my manager is aware of things on site, and he knows how to curry favour with her. I understand that a lot of people will say it's not my business. However the male and female coworker are acting very weird at work by disengaging on their gadgets, following each other round the building, and her husband always being away every weekend. She tells me this. The lady is very pretty but she wears clothes for a night club (which includes very high skirts, heels, the works). She's constantly texting on her phone all day (I love my husband but I don't text him or anyone else all day...) The male coworker comes in scrolling/texting on his phone the same time that she is...I think they are both having an extra-marital affair or at least a 'friends with benefits situation'. Other clues: when I joined and he talked to me in the tea room with another male coworker, she came in didn't acknowledge me or him but only the third coworker. I did nothing wrong. Although he was 'flirty' with me in terms of proposing we worked on a book together (he was also showing off in front of his male friend as an ego boost). I think what I am trying to say is I don't feel he shows much professionalism or personal respect towards me.

You are way too invested in this. Just ignore them its not your problem, like you say in 3 months you will be gone.

Seriosuly, why do you care if they're having sex (or whatever)? Why are you looking for clues? Why do you care that they use their phone at work?

You're a temp. Ignore all the shenanigans going on around you, and just get on with your work. You'll be out of there soon enough.

I am not looking for clues. They are literally in my face at a busy desk on one floor so it's a little claustrophobic (not to mind unprofessional when they are not available to help). In 3 months I don't care. But they shouldn't be acting like two 18 year olds hanging out of a wine bar.

You are way way too invested in this, you posted about this 6 months ago. Honestly ignore them or speak to your boss, you're out of there in 3 months stick it out or leave.

How about you just do your work and stop judging what women are wearing and whether they're wearing rings or not. Crikey.

Sorry Op but the way you describe it sounds like ‘Carry On Temping’ with Sid James eyeing the little ‘dolly bird’.

Stop judging and just see out your 3 months…

Perhaps if people were doing their jobs/pulling their weight, not lying about their private life in an office, or stealing big chunks of the working day for 'assignations', then the working environment would be more productive. Sid James is about right for this sleaze.

If it's affecting a joint project then raise it with the manager, and say you're taking on a disproportionate workload compared to them.

Who's sleeping with who, who's wearing what or on instagram is not relevant. Just laugh internally at your colleagues if they're embarrassing themselves.

What advice do you want in reality?

And when you edit a post it can still be seen btw.

You just sound pissed off that the bloke who you thought was flirting with you flirts with everyone.

The co-workers are banging each other, but ignore it and see out your 3 months.

It’s not worth your time or energy getting involved.

Sorry but this is the impression I got too 😬 why do you care so much?! He sounds ridiculous but frankly, so do you for being so over invested.

No, he's just a married sleaze who's not doing work, and being a tart in general with women. Unlike his male coworkers who are professional.

So how does this affect your work? Or do you just want to rant?

Fine if you just want to offload but it is really none of your business who is shagging whom at work. You're investing far too much mental energy for a temp, just get on with your work.