I'm in a strange relationship, can anyone enlighten me?

[LegsLil]

I went to Greece at the beginning of April after a horrible marriage separation. I went away for a week while my ex was moving out.

It was just what I needed: peaceful and nurturing. Two days into the holiday, me and some friends talked to some men at a bar in the very small local town. One of them seemed pretty keen on me, which was a shock after many years in a sexless marriage. We didn't speak the same language, though, so we couldn't really converse. At one point, he followed me to the toilet and asked for my social media account, and as I was a bit drunk and flattered, I gave it to him.

Me and my friends went to dinner at the restaurant next door and after 15 minutes I realised he and his friend were there, and he was staring at me all the time. We didn't speak there and I left. When I got home I had a load of messages from him saying he wanted to meet up. I didn't really fancy him and was amused and flattered, but I wasn't going to.

Then, near the end of the holiday, I thought, why not have an inconsequential one-night stand? So we went on a date, using Google Translate the whole time😂The sex was amazing though, and we had a really nice time. I left the next day and he came to the boat to say goodbye, which was sweet but a bit cringe.

What's completely mad is that he's been texting and calling me every day since. I don't know what's going on. Why am I still in touch with him? Where's it going? What is he getting out of it?

He talks as if we're together and I will be coming back to the island soon, even though I've said I can't. I've never had a holiday fling before so it's all a bit weird. Any thoughts appreciated

Thank you for making my holiday so special, I wish you well. Xx

Then block..

You’ve had a lovely time, it was just what you needed, and now you’re back home. Forget him, block his number, you know it’s not real. Of course your heads spinning a bit with it all but it’s not a relationship. Take the good from it - a lovely ego boost, put you back on your feet - but it does not come home with you.

Maybe he is from a culture where he inconsequential one night stands are not the norm. I daresay you did not use Google Translate to spell out that for you it was simply a fling.

I would be inclined to explain that you behaved as you did because your marriage had broken up. On reflection you realise that you are not ready for a new relationship. You wish him well, but don't think it's fair to keep in touch/take up his time because he needs to meet somebody who is ready to get to know him.

We had sex at his flat.

Thanks, everyone. You're right, I should block and move on

I'm from a culture where one night stands are not the norm... just to counter AnnaSewell's comment.

It doesn't mean that one night stands don't happen - it means that girls , women get vilified and the man is still a stud. Y'know the same old stud Vs slut thing.

Please BLOCK.

It really wasn't sensible to go to a stranger's flat was it? There could have been any number of men there. You were lucky. Block him and move on. Be more wiser in future.

Be more wise... ps you're not in a relationship.

You're not in any sort of relationship.

Him following you to the toilet to ask for you social media details? 🚩

Him turning up in the restaurant you went to? 🚩

You going back to a stranger's flat for sex? 🚩

When you didn't even fancy him? 🚩

Him pestering you now you're home? 🚩

You considering that this is a relationship on any level? 🚩🚩🚩

There's nothing wrong with a one night stand but you were/are not in control in any of this

Just block him.

Wanting a visa and money is my first thought!

Typically 'grooming' starts for weeks/months then when youre smitten, he may start asking for money/visits!

Visa to where? Greece is in the EU, so a lot more beneficial than a British passport. Jesus Christ

Crikey

You had a more exciting week than I did!

Ermm yes. A 'relationship'?

Hi there!
So, I m Greek. I understand the guy is Greek. And yes OP this is the way they behave 😄. They chase you A LOT! They are good in bed and very passionate. And after they get you….oh well…I won’t go there.
By the way many Greeks have a lot of money and own property especially If they come from an island. Don’t know the guy of course. But I do know that they chase the woman a lot and you being British is something different so there you go :). I think If not interested just stop responding. He will move on. But If you fall for it be prepared.
Personally I am fed up with Greeks/Meditteraneans and looking for a nice British gentleman.

I'm a bit confused - do you enjoy speaking or you don't want anything to do with him now?

Thank you! @Rania78 Yes, he is not poor and has no intention of coming to the UK. I just wondered why he kept in touch. When I went to the island, it was very quiet, but now the holiday season is picking up, I thought he would have found some new entertainment.

I'm fed up with English men 😭

@Edenmum2 I enjoy talking to him but wonder where it's all going. I think I'm using it as a distraction from my new single life. There's nothing bad about it atm, but it's also not real so I should bring it to a close.

It was just a memorable one night stand. He boosted your ego. Just leave it as a memory. It's nothing more.

This.
Let it rest now.

Sounds like a player.