I'm in a strange relationship, can anyone enlighten me?

[LegsLil]

I went to Greece at the beginning of April after a horrible marriage separation. I went away for a week while my ex was moving out.

It was just what I needed: peaceful and nurturing. Two days into the holiday, me and some friends talked to some men at a bar in the very small local town. One of them seemed pretty keen on me, which was a shock after many years in a sexless marriage. We didn't speak the same language, though, so we couldn't really converse. At one point, he followed me to the toilet and asked for my social media account, and as I was a bit drunk and flattered, I gave it to him.

Me and my friends went to dinner at the restaurant next door and after 15 minutes I realised he and his friend were there, and he was staring at me all the time. We didn't speak there and I left. When I got home I had a load of messages from him saying he wanted to meet up. I didn't really fancy him and was amused and flattered, but I wasn't going to.

Then, near the end of the holiday, I thought, why not have an inconsequential one-night stand? So we went on a date, using Google Translate the whole time😂The sex was amazing though, and we had a really nice time. I left the next day and he came to the boat to say goodbye, which was sweet but a bit cringe.

What's completely mad is that he's been texting and calling me every day since. I don't know what's going on. Why am I still in touch with him? Where's it going? What is he getting out of it?

He talks as if we're together and I will be coming back to the island soon, even though I've said I can't. I've never had a holiday fling before so it's all a bit weird. Any thoughts appreciated

It's Greece not some backward country where they're desperate to get a UK passport, I'll think you'll find that Greeks are perfectly happy where they are and who can blame them? Greece is lovely.

Gordon Bennett. She had a one night stand that ended safely, is clearly using the terminology 'relationship' loosely and wants to know how to politely extricate herself as it's started to feel a bit odd knowing it was only a holiday thing (which the guy was well aware of). And people are on about visas, psychopaths and even some suggesting the bloke was somehow taken advantage of when actually it seems to have done OP the power of good, she just needs to now shut it down. Stop making it weird.

Greek women have confirmed that one nighters are normal in society so I don't think we need to worry about 'Dmitri's' honour, either way he initiated it.

OP, I would send a nice message saying it was wonderful spending time with him but you are busy with work and have no plans to visit the island soon, all the best in life. If he's bold enough to follow you into a toilet he can take it on the chin.

You're vulnerable post long marriage ending and need to deal with that, not getting sucked into a pen friendship as distraction. If you think you'll miss the attention, what about online dating to meet some men closer to home? And remember, the words you're reading aren't actually him, they're Google. If you feel yourself getting carried away remember you don't actually speak the same language so how's it meant to work in real life?

@Rania78 I wish we could rejoin the EU straight away. What a shit show

Off to book holiday to Greece ….

How do you know he is Greek ? you could hardly understand a word he was saying, so I doubt you could identify his accent of origin. Greece is one of major points of entry for migrants from the southern Mediterranean and the Arab states .

Shirley Valentine vibes here too!

Not called Shirley are you?

Didn't read previous comments only OP's, sorry to repeat.

@LegsLil

You had a 'summer romance' (albeit not in the summer). Keep the memories because they're lovely. But very rarely are those romances other than fleeting and the 'romance' would disappear in the light of our everyday lives.

Send him a 'fond but final farewell' and if he doesn't get the message then block him.

he wants to come to the UK is my guess

I'd continue chatting to him if you're enjoying it. Not daily phonecalls though. Or block if you're bothered by it

I've had flings with 2 Greek guys in my 20s..... the sex was amazing ... lol

Don’t apologise. Great minds…

Greek men all save themselves and their virginity for one woman and NOW YOU'RE IT!!!! :-D

OP I guess you need to work out what it is you want, or what you're getting from this interaction, or what you want out of it?

Could it be you're enjoying the chat/messages if you're feeling lonely, or they brighten up your day? Nothing wrong with that. We all need some human interaction.

(I actually use Zoom for a meet for an interest of mine, it's a great group, but the chances are I'll never meet anyone in person!)

If it's just like easy WhatsApp Penpals and you don't think he's taking the messages seriously either, you could continue.

If you explain you have no intention of meeting and that's the vibe, why not? Expect it will fizzle out at some point, no harm done.

Obviously if he asks for anything dodgy like money or sex pics ignore and block! I'd also maybe put some boundaries on your social media etc.

Imagine you're currently recalibrating your life post divorce, so it will take time. I wouldn't get addicted to these messages and not find new networks

But if you know the score and you don't think he's putting his life on hold for you then just let it happen.