Background info - DP and I are 39(me) and 42(him), we have been together for 2 years. Getting married in Sept, I’m around 7 weeks with our surprise baby.
I always thought our relationship was very healthy, it’s the healthiest I’ve ever had and we were very happy. I always trusted him, he’s never given me any reason to doubt him.
A few weeks ago I happened to wake up in bed after dropping off and saw DP flicking through bikini pics of women on instagram. We had a discussion about how that made me feel and I didn’t appreciate him following these types of accounts. He said fair enough and said he’d unfollowed them etc. I had no reason to doubt this and we moved on.
Last week we were sitting on the sofa and I saw in my periphery there was a woman dancing provocatively on his instagram. He paused on it for a minute and then carried on flicking. I didn’t react straight away but went to my own phone and for the first time looked through his instagram and Facebook. He was following lots of women who had onlyfans, all pouting/cleavage photos, selfies in mirrors wearing not very much, you get the drift.
I spoke to him about this again and how it made me feel after last time. He really reacted badly, saying he didn’t know how to unfollow them all, must have missed some etc etc. Now this is a man who works in IT so it’s laughable that he can knock up an advanced excel document but can’t work out how to unfollow people! I explained that now being pregnant has made me feel really unattractive lately. I’m constantly feeling sick and as a result I’m eating lots of crap. I’m not feeling very body confident and this doesn’t help. He begrudgingly said he would sort it out. He wanted me to trawl through his instagram and Facebook for things I didn’t approve of. I refused saying I’m not his mother, that’s his responsibility as an almost married father in his 40s. He again assured me he had sorted it.
Today I was on instagram/facebook and was still getting follow/friend suggestions of these types of women, all because he is still following them. I didn’t get angry or anything but blocked him on instagram and Facebook and told him he can now follow what he likes, I just don’t want it rammed down my throat with suggestions that I follow them too!
He has now said I’ve overreacted and if I have a problem I need to go through his account and highlight any I have issue with. I’ve told him that is his problem to solve and to now leave me out of it.
I now have the proper ick over him, some of these women are probably young enough to be his daughters and it’s basically knocked him off the pedestal I had him on
Have I let pregnancy hormones get the better of me or is this gross? 🤢