He's very stressed because he says I have sowed doubt in his head so he has to break up with her because he says he can't look at and not be honest, and he thinks confronting her is cruel because she's vulnerable and he will hurt her feelings. He's very upset and I feel awful.
The things she said which sound bizarre were basically...
Over her stay here, she experienced several crisis on in just a few days. One was saying she experienced racist abuse on the way over, another was saying a friend had just died and she had to go to her room (this friend was semi famous in a way), another was saying some important event had been cancelled, another was saying she has a rare blood disease. It was all just....odd.
The dates / circumstances of her life story don't add up. She claims she did three A Levels and did really well but then changed her mind and did three more because her topic of interest changed - with a gap year - but she isn't really old enough to to have done A levels twice and had a gap year (she's 19).
She also claims UCAS won't consider her previous A level results (does anyone know if this is true?) She also told me the course she wanted to attend in September requires X UCAS points and I looked it up and this is WAY off what the website description says.
She claimed she was expelled from her previous secondary school for lying about being abused because the school believed her parents when they denied it, but I can't quite fathom this being true - surely a school would not do that?
She says she is in full time secondary education doing A Levels, but also claims she has a full time job and a second WFH which give her a combined salary of 60k. I have no idea how you would be in full time education, AND full time work AND a second job...I asked how that was possible and she said "I don't sleep" and "the school let me do whatever I want".
To add to the above, for the last three weeks I haven't noticed her going to work at all, so how can you have a full time retail job and never go to work? I asked her this and she said she was "waiting for her shifts".
She said she pays X amount in rent, which is about double the market rate. I asked my partner about this and he said it was plausible and possible that a rogue landlord would charge someone young /vulnerable /with no references double rent. But that considered, the rent amount she gave me would leave her £100pcm for all her bills, transport, phone, food etc and I can't understand how anyone would live on that.
She has also booked a holiday with DS and two further holidays this summer, so I have no idea how she is paying or getting so much time off work. I asked her and she said the holiday place have a daily competition and she won...?!
It just sounded like complete bull shit from start to finish, and I couldn't really understand the motivation. My DS is quite vulnerable. He's had some MH issues and was very lonely after his last breakup and he said she's been very kind and loving and attentive and he is just very upset.
He is saying he has to confront her, but he says doing so will show he doesn't trust her and so this has ultimately ruined a relationship that made him happy. I just feel dreadful, but if a girl told you all this -would you think it sounded off?
I don't want to be one of those Mums that doesn't like their DS's girlfriends, but I just got the severe creeps from the whole thing.