Hello, please help!
I am extremely close to my 20 year old DS and he has brought a new GF home who he's been seeing for a couple of months and she comes across as a fantasist.
She has told a lot of stories about herself, her past, her current financial circumstances and so on which are frankly implausible. Many of which are terrible circumstances (eg: landlord recently doubled her rent). Others just don't add up.
For example, she claims she is both in full time education doing a BTEC and also claims she has a full time job with a 60k salary aged 19! It all just seems like utter bollocks. Not least because she never appears to go to either work or school.
She also stayed with us for only 3 days, during which 3 or 4 huge dramas occurred. She was frequently running off to the bedroom because she just had some terrible news. It all just seemed not true!
I spoke to my son, who's a bit innocent, and he agreed it all sounded far fetched (as do his friends) but he says he feels trusting of her and very close to her and that he now feels he has to end the relationship because he feels spying on her or checking up on her seems deceptive.
What should I advise him to do? It's not impossible she is telling the truth about all these things, but it does seem MASSIVELY unlikely and I can't work out the possible reasons why she would be being so dishonest but I feel genuinely concerned.
It all made me feel really anxious.
Advice?