DH never takes photos!

[MotherOfOlafs]

Not a particularly serious post, just wondering if other DH/DP’s are similar?
DH never takes photos if we are out for the day/away on holiday. He’s never taken a photo of us together unless I’ve asked him (his phone camera is much better than mine). Doesn’t take photos of scenery, or tourist attractions. Will occasionally take a photo of a dinner in a restaurant or the cat but that’s it! Is this weird or normal?

Mine rarely does either, he's more likely to take a photo of something funny to show me than of us or DD.
Not never but it's rare! I think it's just man brain, mental load etc. If I don't take photos on holidays/days out, or ask him to specifically, we wouldn't have any

I weirdly had this covo (for probs the 20th time in the last 10 years) last week! It was so sunny and i noticed i was constantly taking pics of our 18m old laughing and playing with him - yet i have 0 pics of me and our little one unless i have taken it as a selfie! He was (as always is) ‘ah sorry yeah i will do’ as i pointed out i have brought it up countless times before. He said just forgets. Must be a male thing!! it is annoying though

My ex never did, I have 100's of photos of him on holidays, there's maybe 10 of me over the 13 years we were together.

Not a male thing. DH is a much more copious photographer than I am, and some of the best photographs we have of family occasions are taken by his uncle who has an excellent eye for photos. Of friends I follow on Instagram, the most frequent posters are men.

Dh is the same his phones photo album is 40% work, 55% scenery and then 5 % family photos but random unposed ones that are so unflattering.

my camera role is 95% family and friends with 5% scenery.

I suppose we all like different things.

I wish more people would do this, too many people don’t enjoy the moment and are so quick to get their phones out and start clicking.

When I was a child taking photos was a special thing, we couldn’t keep taking multiples and the excitement of getting them developed was something else.

Even at concerts, everyone has their phone out recording the concert, they might aswell watch it on tv!

Im guessing your DH isn’t overly fussed about pics, my husband is the opposite of me, takes pics of everything and sometimes I have to remind him to enjoy the moment for what it is xx

Mine never does. I have often thought it weird!

Well it does seem a pattern of males! Some probably do take very good photos, it just seems it’s more common that they don’t! My dad is the same and i don’t think any males in our family get their phone out to snap family pics! Good yours does though

Neither DH or I are big photo takers. I take more of the dogs than anything. We both take some if we go away somewhere but would rather enjoy the moment with one or two photos to remind us of the memories than spend all our time behind the camera and/or phone! Everyone's different 🤷‍♀️.

I just had a thought - last year i bought and took a throw away camera on our family holiday - my other half did actually pull it out of the bag a few times to snap a pic and he did like doing that! Maybe something to try for a special occasion or holiday :)

Not a man thing. It's an I'm not really aware of my wife thing. Which some men suffer with.

My DH is like this. Does not spontaneously take photos if we are out and about or on holiday. Never took any photos of me with the children when they were younger, I'd always have to ask so never have any 'captured in the moment' ones.

I don't take photos I mean the occasional but I'm hardly in any, Dh is the same I didn't realise it was a thing people got upset about. Op just take your photos and leave him to not I honestly don't think it's a huge deal.

I was thinking “he sounds great” until you mentioned taking a photo of his dinner in restaurants 😂

My XH was like this. I have no photos of myself with a baby bump, with our babies, looking dressed up for special nights out, nothing.

Now-DH is always snapping me. It makes me feel loved.

I think it's more weird to want photos of everything - how many of your photos you took, say, 2 years ago, can you honestly say that you've ever been back to look at?

So I am like your DH in your relationship - I never take photos unless it's something I consider specially noteworthy or DH or the DC ask me to.
DH is by way of an amateur photographer so he takes what he considers to be arty shots, but not necessarily family or touristy shots. Both of us are totally "normal".

My XH took photos of scenery or his many & varied cars and motorbikes, but rarely took any of me with our kids unless I asked him to. I have to remind my kids when they look at pics that not only was I the one behind the camera but that I’d specifically taken them to xyz place, remembered to take the camera as we didn’t have camera phones then, downloaded and/or sent off to be printed the photos, arranged them into albums and documented where/when it was. Their dad was just there holding them and gets all the glory. Pissed me right off!

My eldest actually posted one of said photos of him with his dad at the place where they both work when DS was about 2, thanking him for all his support to get to where he is today in his career etc, thanking his colleagues for supporting him, his GF for putting up with him during training etc. and completely ignoring me. When I challenged him he asked “but what did you do to get me here?” I replied all of the above, as well as being the one to take him to school every day, take care of him, cook his meals, bring him up to be a decent human being, all while his dad worked most weekends and did as little as possible around the house and moaned every time I asked him to get involved in family stuff. It’s shit being the invisible support human, so now I specifically ask them to take pics of me when we’re out together, or just hand over my phone to them after I’ve taken pics.

I much prefer to enjoy the moment and can't be bothered with taking photos usually.
Like most people I took loads of my son when he was a baby and growing up, and a lot have my DH in them - which is nice seeing as he died when my son was 18. There are very few of me as I hate having my photo taken.
Now I take the occasional photo when I'm out and about with my son as i don't see him often but spending the time snapping away is a waste of the day
Can't understand people and their perpetual selfie taking - seems so self absorbed

The phrase "they can only be what they can see" exists for a reason and to expect your son to treat is GF with any more respect than he or his father afford you is ambitious. And so it goes on with his own son, should he have one.

Women are domestic appliances to be taken for granted. Dire.

I know lots of people who don't take pictures.

Its not a male thing. It's a I can't be bothered thing.

And it's so wrong.

My mum died when I was 10. There's album's and albums of us as kids. She's in a handful of photos. Dad's in almost all. It's almost as if she didn't really exist looking back on the photos.

DP doesn't really. Very occasionally he'll take one of the dogs, maybe a child and more frequently a tractor. He has taken the odd photo of me but has never shown me them so I might look like a troll in them! 😂He relies on me taking them I think bless him.

I don't think it IS an I can't be bothered thing. No one loves his family more than my DP, he's the best man I've ever met. He just doesn't think of it or think it is important. To him, being with is in important, having photos isn't. My DF is the same. I don't think I've EVER seen him take a pic, and yet he is the best Dad in the world, bar none.

I love my DD and DH beyond all words, but I also seldom take photos - that doesn't mean I don't love the time with them.

I was at a wedding last year and so many people were sitting at the reception taking Selfies and what I assume was altering them before they went on SM, sitting in their own little world ignoring people beside them. I found it really odd