My Dad is a very angry, shouty man. He is very difficult to be around, but I can't go contact for various complicated reasons. I really don't know what is wrong with him, whether it's a personality disorder or severe depression, or just personality. I could write a book on his behaviour, but I'll just give a few recent examples in hope that someone can shed some light on him for me.
- He wanted me to go somewhere with him, I told him I would after work. I finish work and ring him and check we're still going (he often changes his mind and doesn't want to go to things) and he says 'why? don't you want to? I bet you've made plans to go out' all angrily, and I say no I just need to know so I can start getting ready. He says yes we're still going, so I get ready and go and find him (he's in the garage). He has a go at me for approaching him to see if he's ready when he's in the garage with my jacket and shoes on ready to leave as it's rude as apparently I can tell he's not ready. He then starts on a long rant about he's not had a drink all day, has had nothing to eat, as if it's my fault. We end up not going after I've sat there ready to leave for half an hour. He's retired and just potters around doing random things.
- The other day we were in the car together and there is a car driving crazily, weaving in and out of traffic (but not near us, so not impacting us directly). He takes it upon himself to race this car (so therefore driving crazily himself) to the traffic lights, wind down his window and sweat at the driver. Then when the driver is trying to change into our lane he blocks it by constantly matching its speed... He's done this kind of thing before, it's really embarrassing and scary.
- He thinks rules don't apply to him, but apply for everyone else. No one else can speed, but he can. No one else can park in places they're not supposed to, but he can.
- He has embarrassed me in public so many times. He is rude and arrogant to people, he is a nightmare customer in shops. If there's a queue in a shop and he has to queue in it he will start berating the staff who aren't on the tills, saying they are lazy. I'll tell him to stop and be quiet but that gets him even angrier. If we're in a restaurant he'll loudly say things like 'these menus are f*cking filthy', just things that most people wouldn't say loud enough for everyone to hear.
Any insight?