Partner Arrested What do I do?

[Cbarkerxo]

someone I have been seeing and I went for a few drinks yesterday, everything was great and had a lovely day. Get back to the pub down the road and his friends girlfriend and friend was there. He made several inappropriate comments about the girl, I let it go and then he said something degrading which really upset me, I left the pub and I walked home. Slightly jealous? Maybe. But I have been treated like this before and I was made to feel like a problem.
I walked home, he was ringing me constantly. He got back before I did, decided to get the car keys.. next thing I have a call from him saying ‘this is your fault babe’. He had crashed the car into a parked car down the road (luckily no one was hurt).
he’s been arrested at midnight, I haven’t heard a thing. Really bad experience with the police and I have been left in the dark. I understand they can’t and won’t tell me certain things.. but what do I do? Do I wait for him to contact me/go pick him up or do I just leave? The fact he said it was my fault really has upset me.

Block him and move on with your life - it will be a lot better without him in it.

His behaviour in the pub was disgusting, and you say he has done this before.

Never mind drunk driving and blaming you.

It’s not you. It’s him.

If you stay with a man who treats you like the way he behaved in the pub he will gnaw away your self esteem like a rat gnawing bones.

Don’t let these men destroy you.

Look at the Freedom Programme.

So he was rude to some women then ride to you. Then left you to walk alone with out making sure you were safe. Then he drove drunk and crashed. And the first thing he did was blamed you for his actions.

It's not you. He's awful. Leave him.

Granted, people say things they don't always mean in an argument, especially when booze is involved. A comment can be talked about and the fact he hates his ex

However, drink driving and then blaming you is totally unacceptable. If you stay, (which I suggest you don't) he'll probably expect you to ferry him around and then still blame you for it all.

What do you do? You end it immediately with this misogynist.
You didn't pour the drink down his throat and force him to drive, so nothing is your fault
I think you need a break from dating now and concentrate on yourself
" Date" yourself and spend time doing things you enjoy to build your self esteem and confidence.

You take it as the massive red flag the size of a bus that it is, you block him and you take yourself to therapy to continue your healing journey.

Whatever you do don’t have a kid with this guy.

Your OP sounds exactly like something my
mum would have wrote many years ago.

My ‘father’ spent all day drinking himself in a bar and then wrote off four cars parked in a lay-by.

My mum had only been with him a few weeks.

She stayed with him and subsequently had me.

Worst decision ever. I endured a childhood of emotional abuse from my ‘father’ until I was 13, and it was only then he left was my name removed from the Child Protection Register.

I always ask my mum why she stayed with him.

She thought it was a silly mistake and that he would change. In reality he had manipulated her.

They never do change.

Leave him.

Now.